A few months back, my husband took up professional wrestling as a hobby. He goes to practice every Sunday. And once a month on Saturday they have a show. And the 1st Saturday they have a meeting.
I work in retail. So I usually work most weekends. However, sometimes I am off on Saturdays and I am off every other sunday. How do I tell him that I would like him to spend time with me on Sunday instead of him going to practice. Sunday is the only day off that we have together.
2006-12-17 05:22:13 · 9 answers · asked by Liz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes I do go to practice and I go to all of the events with him. I have to work the gate and the concesion stand. I dont go to practice all the time because to be honest it is boring and I dont have anything to do while I am there.
2006-12-17 05:34:26 · update #1
My husband installs car stereos and is a video game fan along with being a computer hero...I also face this problem. Our only day together is also every other Sunday. Since I have not quite tackled this issue. I can say that it has improved. First off nagging did work for me and made things seem so much worse. Communication helped but He felt I was trying to tell him to give up his job and the things he loved. So communication did not go so great . So I started doing fun things without him on purpose. This worked. Once he saw that I can have fun without him. He starting wanted to have some fun too!!! We now try to (as hard as it is ) to get things done around the house all week long so that we are both without excuse come OUR day off. I did let my husband know that I love him and want him to have his hobbies and be happy but as a woman and his woman. I need his time and complete attention sometimes. He was shocked that I told him I needed him since I am pretty independent.
It is ok to need your man I am sure he needs you too. If so he may just compromise once in awhile. Good luck and Good Lovin'
2006-12-17 05:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your own hobby and support one another. You did not sound as though you both have kids, so there is plenty of time in the evening on week days and I am sure that practice is not all day on Sunday.
P.S. What would be unfair is if this new hobby is all year long. Then you would have to speak with him about sharing time on Sunday.
Best of luck.
2006-12-17 05:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you HAVE to work the gate and consession stand? And if going to HIS practices are so boring for you why are you married? Face the fact that he has a hobby that he obviously enjoys, either you support him in it or you don't. Sometimes in marriage we have to do things we don't particularly like to do in order to be supportive of the ones we love.
2006-12-17 08:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no good answer to your question besides just talking to him and telling him how you feel. I had to go threw it to with my ex... He was a tatoo artist who never had free time for me and our kid all he did was run off and hang out making no money this would constatute a hobby to day in life he still does tats but our love died like any other would when there is nothing left holding you togather. I hope you can work past this... Good luck to you ...
2006-12-17 05:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by savannah_smiles25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to practice with him on Sundays! Have a meal together afterwards.
2006-12-17 05:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find your own hobby and tell hubby if he gets his pic taken and put in the paper, make sure nothing about the pic is embarrasing such as having the back of his wrestling shorts stuck up his crack.
2006-12-17 05:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you don`t plan a special weekend for both? like going to a special place.. a barbecue, I don`t know.. try something that makes him interested in passing a Sunday with you instead of going to the wrestling. Also, why don`t you go with him to the wrestling.. He`ll feel different with you in "his space".. and finally he`ll quite doing that.
2006-12-17 05:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by JEAN B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at it this way . after you have been together about 10 years you will be happy to get him out of the house . count your blessings
2006-12-17 05:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by treefrog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell he or her straight in person and say we don't spend much time together i think we should sped more tikme together,
rules to that (1) don't be shy
(2) don't try to be really mean
(3) don't be nervous to say something
2006-12-17 05:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋