we have alot of dirt between us and i can't decide if we should keep tring or just give up? I seem to keep gettin depressed any help??
2006-12-17 04:44:10 · 7 answers · asked by turbocrissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and he won't cosider going and talking to someone thinks its a waste now i have my faults but he won't even let me continue with my passion firefighting
2006-12-17 05:20:52 · update #1
First what does he have to do with u wanting to be a firefighter, if thats what you want go for it, unless your telling him to give up things he loves. If he does not want to get help fine you do it, you focus on helping you and he will notice a change if he still dont care to make himself a better person then move on.. and look online for a marriage chat room it helps trust me.
2006-12-17 06:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by ncgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give a lot of details but I can tell from your question that you are unhappy with things as they are. If you have tried counseling, talking, and making changes and nothing has worked - then yes, a divorce might be in order. Life is too short to spend it in an unhappy relationship. You have to ask yourself if you deserve to be happy. Your own mental health is most important. Being alone is better than staying in a relationship that is causing depression.
2006-12-17 12:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how dirty all that dirt is between you both.
Does your wife know how you feel? That would be my first step.
She may have NO idea of the turmoil that you're living with.
However, I'm confident your depression is affecting her. With that said, I believe you both need to communicate your feelings to each other. If that's not possible, than perhaps a professional consultation is required to get to the bottom of things, thus enabling you to make a decision that will bring you peace.
2006-12-17 12:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried counseling? have you tried long talks about how to fix problems with your spouse? does your spouse want to try? does your spouse understand how you feel?
i think you should ask yourself these questions and if the answer is yes to all of them, and you still can't find peace, then maybe it is time to separate. you shouldn't be depressed and thinking about divorce all the time. life is too short to be unhappy in a relationship.
good luck
2006-12-17 12:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to therapy,.you will be able to open yourself about the reasons. And once you know, you have to be super strong to go with your decision. good luck !
2006-12-17 12:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by confuse06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't decide you and your wife should go see a marriage counsler and he could help you better.
2006-12-17 12:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried any counseling?
2006-12-17 12:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋