I'm currently 6 month pregnant with my second son, my first is 15 months old. My boyfriend and the father of my children have been together for 21/2 years. Recently I heard a sexual message on his voicemail from his ex. After that I looked up our old phone records they had been talking back and forth for months. He swears that he was only talking to her as a friend and that nothing ever happened. He said he has no idea why she would leave him that kind of message. I love this man so much and he really is so sweet and loving to me and our son. I want to believe him but it is so hard,some part of me just doesn't trust him anymore. Is it possible he didn't cheat? How can I tell if he is telling the truth?
2006-12-17 04:43:32 · 10 answers · asked by hotmama91205 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My boyfriend and I started dating 5 months after they broke up. I also know that she has always wanted him back. She is always calling his mothers house adn trying to get his mom to talk about us.
2006-12-17 05:09:48 · update #1
To Colleen O and Teacher how dare you both be so rude to me. I fell in love with this man and it is none of your business to say that we slept together to soon. We didn't just make our babies God blessed us with them. I love my children both born and unborn with all my heart and I love their father the same way. Please all future posters keep your rude judgemental comment to yourself. I'm going through enough emotional troubles without having to defend my actions to people I have never met and God willing I will never have to !!
2006-12-17 10:53:28 · update #2
You can't. If you think he's cheating, then he probably is.
2006-12-17 04:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't unless you go and follow him 24 hours a day , but do you really want to go their. I guess you have to take his word for it you have no proof if you did would you divorce him or forgive him. You said he respects you and love you pray for him that he be a faithful man to you only God can change the hearts of women and men not us. Don't stress yourself out about it. We are heelp mate here to love and support our husbands some or weaker and worser than others. Learn to pray and support your husband through everthing in your marriage tyr to trust him. I know the concern but can you make him stop or change if he is. You either stay and pray and treat him the way you want to be treated for leave him on assuptions. You can call her and ask her but really if that women is having an affair with your husband she has builded a bond with him and wont tell you the truth and she may because she wants you to break up with him so she can have him. Then he will play over her to she just don't know it yet. What comes around goes around men that sow these type of seeds better watch out. God bless you women in pain Focus on you and the babies do the right thing God wil reward you. Women has won the men over by their quiet and chaste behavior pray that God saves him and change him God bless you to give you strenght through this difficult time. Most men show love by giving you money or presents thats their way of saying I'm sorry
2006-12-17 12:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are spending time together on the phone, email or in person then she is NOT his ex. she is one of his "currents" Sorry to tell you this but he is just as sneaky as he is sweet. if he is not cheating yet he will be soon - very soon. BUT I would bet that he already is cheating with her. Not to many people continue a daily or even weekly relationship with an ex unless they still like each other and are hoping to get back together.
question: How long after his break up with her did you get involved with him. sounds like you caught him on a rebound.
2006-12-17 12:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by zqx357 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't tell you he was talking to her on a regualr basis then something isnt quiet right about this. I believe anything you feel you have to keep secret or go behind the back of your signifcant other is wrong. You could always call her ask her about the message and tell her you want to hear her side of the story. Just be sure not to tip off him you are going to do it.
Good luck
2006-12-17 12:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but it does sound like he's been cheating on you. If he tells you he hasn't been cheating on you, then you need to tell him in no uncertain terms that he is to have NO contact with that woman EVER AGAIN. He does NOT need to maintain a "friendship", or anything else with her. If his intentions were truly only "friendship" with her, then SHE blew it by leaving an entirely inappropriate message on his voicemail. SHE is clearly NO "friend" to him. Tell him he needs to choose between his "friendship" with her, or his family. Period.
2006-12-17 12:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got involved with a guy who's ex wanted him back and you CHOSE to have sex with him and create not only ONE child but TWO? You should have thought all about this in the very beginning when you obviously spread your legs WAY too soon into the non-relationship. What has happened to COMMON SENSE?
2006-12-17 16:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He must make a choice and commitment now. You two seemed to have successfully cluttered your lives with ridiculous behavior. Please don't force these same circumstances for another generation. Put your children first. Get married and create a real family life or separate permanently and move on with your lives. What you are doing now is unhealthy for each other and destructive to those precious children you've created together.
2006-12-17 13:15:18 · answer #7 · answered by Teacher 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to trust him, has he ever given you any doubt, other than the phone messages?
With out trust your relationship is headed for demise.
2006-12-17 12:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by hurricanemercedes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, this is sad. if he has to keep talking with his ex; it's not good.
telling the truth? you know him best.
2006-12-17 12:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call his ex and ask her. You'll know by her reaction
2006-12-17 12:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by zilmag 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋