I need some tips on dealing with Social Anxiety.?

Question

Please help I feel that if something is not done soon this problem will start taking over my life!

Answer 1

I had a problem with that for a while, too. then I realized that nobody in the room was looking at me as critical as i was looking at myself. relax and try to join in or start a conversation that is of interest to you. smile a lot and i've found that if you compliment others, they are more likely to want to talk to you for a while :) If I don't know someone at a party, I'll walk up to them and say something like "Oh, I love your shoes! Where did you find them?" and it makes them feel nice and it makes you look like a nice person as well

Answer 2

This is not an easy thing to deal with. Its so easy for other people to tell you to just relax and stop worrying and just start up conversations...if it was that easy you wouldnt have a problem would you? Its often times something that takes over our minds and we really can help but feel anxious. If you feel that it is takin over your life then you need to talk to your dr about it and try counceling or a low dose of some kind of anxiety medication. I had the same problem and didnt want to take meds for it, but after years of being miserable finally did it and now i dont have those issues anymore. Just remember that you arent alone and there are many people out there suffering from this, but you dont have to!! Good luck!

Answer 3

My neighbor has social anxiety. She can't even go to the grocery store alone. One thing that is very important is to build a network of people that you trust. Work on taking 'small steps'. My neighbor has two dogs that she has to walk every day, so she makes several trips around our apartment complex daily. In doing so, she meets almost everyone that lives here and can return to her apartment whenever she feels tired.

I would also consult a doctor to discuss drug therapy if you feel as though nothing will help.

Answer 4

The big key for me is to relax and remember that I'm the one judging myself the hardest. Relax and control your breathing, and be nice and respectful towards people. It's hard, and it's taken me 25 years to start breaking through the anxiety for myself. It's just a mental block to overcome. If you feel like it's paralyzing you socially and you can't seem to get a control of it yourself, there are always medications that can be prescribed, but I don't suggest that. You have to deal with your insecurities instead of masking them with drugs.

I hope you overcome this. I know how rough it can be. You can do it!

Answer 5

You know what helps - talking to YOURSELF in front of the mirror. If you're scared to "practice" in front of people, practice on your own. Imagine situations, upcoming parties, events, etc. Just like others before me wrote: you need to accept yourself. Because if you don't, it means you are scared of who you are. Why get stuck with that?

A proof of not having social anxiety: when you consciously make a fool out of yourself and don't care what others think. Go to a cinema, comment the movie out loud, maybe even start singing out of the blue - you're supposed to have fun, not worry what others will think ;)

Answer 6

I have read some litterature about panic attacks. But they allways seem to have a more scientific approach and that is nothing I need in my struggle to survive those horrible panic attacks. This is a "hand on" and very practical book. I felt it was written to me. I am sure that you are going to feel the same.

Joe Barry writes exactly how I think. The examples are perfectly described. And the method is genius. I recommend this book and thanks Joe Barry for writing it. It changes your life

Answer 7

Social anxiety, huh? Hmm.... start going out places VERY frequently. Meet new people, and treat your self when you're making progress. If you don't think you can do it, get a buddy to come with you.

Answer 8

Realize that people are people.

What THEY think of you is one MILLION TIMES less important than what YOU think of YOU.

Once the risk has been removed... and you adapt a "this is me, take me or leave me" attitude - social anxiety can not exist, anymore then FIRE or sound... can exist in a vacuum.

Answer 9

Don't socialize. Join a monastery with a code of bare minimum speaking. Im sure there's a womens version of monastery for women monks somewhere. You're on the internet already. So, try finding one using your computer. I hope my advice is good. I really do. I just can't guarantee you peace in your life.
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Answer 10

listen here sweetie. we all put our pants on the same way. we are all just human beings living in this short little existence. Life is too short to worry about other people and what they think of you, love yourself first for you are the most important person you will ever know. Be confident, be yourself and love it.