what do i do??

Question

my boyfriend has been a little anoying these days
he doesnt leave me alone not even a minute
i meen i love him and all
but i need some room myself and my friends

hes always around
he didnt use to be like this


why is he being like this??
how should i tell him to give me some space
but i dont wanna break up with him
weve been together for 3 years

ohh im 18 years old

Answer 1

talk to him at a good time and carefully word your words. Let him know that it is ok if he wants to spend time with his friends. And that you would like to spend a little girl time also. Sometimes when a person clings to much it is do to insecurity. So try to ween him a little bit at a time.

Answer 2

Your first mistake is getting involved in a relationship too young. Yes, I know, you don't want to see that. You are growing to an adult. This is why you should never be involved as a teen or young adult. You have yet to discover who you really are. You need to grow, experience and learn. You cannot do that tied down. Your bf is not growing, he is depending on you. He will be a mommy's boy if that continues. He will be needy and controlling.

If you decide to stay in this relationship, then you need to be mature and responsible about it. Part of that maturity is honesty. Therefore, tell him how you feel. Explain how you enjoy free time to yourself and you cannot do that with him around all the time. He will wimper and become questionable about how you feel about him. That's insecurity and another reason why you shouldn't be involved so young. Love is about respecting the other person's needs. We all need time alone, even married couples do. If he cannot understand that, then I suggest you get out now...I suggest that anyway so you can be on your own to learn, but that's your choice.

Answer 3

let's seee hereee..... can you say common??? this is a common thing in relationships. since you've been with him for 3 years dosn't that mean that any thing abnormal he dose you'll notice? If he dosn't talk and just stares into anything wouldn't that consern you to ask him... what's wrong? well why don't you just ask him why he's soo close around your space? I mean just tell him up straight. He'll probably appriciate the honesty, and he'll give your space respectfully. Or you can give him hints, like not giving him space, it'll give him an excuse to want to give you space or he'll want to talk right into it, you can give it to him straight up. it's much better to come out with it instead of beating around the bush. This is some of my ideas, of course you'll get more from others, cuz I'm no expert of course. lol... wellll I hope you get the right answer soon, cuz if it's bothering you this much, it's gonna explode outa ya if you keep it in ya long enough

Answer 4

maybe he's kinda overprotective? maybe some talks been going around... idk...

i do know, however, that you should talk to him about a little space. dont be forcefull or anything... you might hurt his feelings... just suggest that a little alone time si something you should both have. then when you meet up again, youll enjoy each other's company more; ie, youve have missed each other, so youll look forward to being together.

remember, too much of a good thing can bad... good luck! =]

Answer 5

You need to explain to him that you need space, and if you don't get it he is going to make you resent him.

Tell him you still want to be with him, but if he doesn't let you breath it's gonna eventually make you stop liking him.

Sounds like maybe he's a little insecure. Is there another guy trying to get your attention and he's jealous or something?

You might need to reassure him a little that he's the guy you want to be with, and there isn't anyone else and if he can't accept that then it's not gonna work out.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Be honest and tell him you love your time together but you love your own time too. It's very important that you have that too for your relationship to last. If you don't tell him you'll end up with a big resentment. He's being like this because you're allowing it. According to him, there is nothing wrong. If you were doing something to him and he didn't like it, but didn't tell you he didn't like it....how would you know and why would you stop???? Be honest :))))

Answer 7

well it looks like your boyfriend is going through a time where he is feeling insecure either he has done something wrong and e has this gulity consionuse or maybe he is just going through a phase where he is feeling down about something or he is just insecure why dont you try talking to him say i love you and i want to continue to be with you and make it work bi=ut your driving me so crazy with all this time were spending together and you want to know whats up, cuz if you keep bring him with you and girls and you keep avioding the girls then you girlfriends arent going to be there for you and no man is worth that belive me. merry christmas,

Answer 8

Well for one you should talk to him and tell him what he is doing and reasure him your not cheating on him. Because he sounds like he can be controling and that's bad especially if he's always around when yoru friends are there. Just tell him that your friends told you to tell him not to be around them to much because he makes some of them nervous. And if he gets mad well so be it. tell him grow up or kick him to the curb and look for someone who treats you good and gives you space.

Answer 9

maybe he recently lost someone in his family and he wants to spend as much time as possible with the family and friends he has now. just ask him nicely to back off a little bit, if he loves you, he will understand that you need your own personal space.

Answer 10

take a vacation or trip without him...its a simple way of getting some space with out having to say i need some space