I miss my almost x husband terribly. We have been seperated for a year now, contact one another now and again.. no hard feelings. I just miss him so very much. The only thing, our outlook on life are so different. I'm travelling a lot and wants to still do that. He wants to settle down and start a family. He send me text messages every day telling me how much he still loves me. And I love him, I'm just so scared that I miss out on what is out there in the big world. Please help!!!! What should I do. How should I decide??
2006-12-17 04:34:03 · 18 answers · asked by Sara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
(I should just say... I'm in another country for a year now.....)
2006-12-17 04:39:31 · update #1
Would you be happy traveling the world for the rest of your life and never seeing this man again?
If the answer is no ask yourself this question...Are you willing to give up much of the traveling and settle down in order to be with this person?
The answer will rest in one of you or both of you making a serious compromise in your lifelong plans. You have to look into your heart and decide what is more important. The life you envision for yourself or the life you want for you and your exhusband.
If the relationship is worth it to you then discuss a compromise and stick to it. Many people go through life never finding their true love. If you have found it...and you know you have found it...what are you willing to give up to hold onto it?
2006-12-17 04:46:08 · answer #1 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well have been traveling for over 30 much like you. Believe me after 30 years of traveling and enjoying my traveling lifestyle.. there is nothing out in the world worth losing your loving husband and eventually your family. So do as you must as your heart desires but if I had it all to do over again, not that I am old Grey and alone, i would have put off traveling for about twenty years and stayed with my family,... then I could start traveling again. Family love and home is the most important thing I think I missed. My Daughters tell me so to this very day. There is nothing you are missing out here in the world... You are missing life itself not being with your love and family. But good luck.
2006-12-17 04:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you are right to travel before you settle down and get the wanderlast out of your system,if it is in you then you are meant to follow it. Having a family now is so costly and so much more to travel with and,they must come first.So carry on travelling until you yourself feel ready to settle. I started travelling at 17 and although now maried with 3 children(all grown up) am still doing i love it
2006-12-17 04:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by brian g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children are my life's greatest accomplishment!! They are my legacy. My life is still not finished. I don't feel like I left a mark on the world or on myself traveling or furthering my career. I felt a imprint on me and an imprint on the world the second I felt my son moving and growing inside me. My children, now 5 and 3, love to travel. I feel like I view a whole new world with them then I did alone.
It sounds like your husband is truly special. The universe has given you a gift.
To me, my choice means investing my 30's into two incredible human beings. When I am in my 40's and 50's and still young at heart, I will fully enjoy traveling with my dear dear husband (also my soul mate, lover, best friend, confident).
2006-12-17 04:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Marjery B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lived the same situation. I wanted to know the world and suceed professionally,and my husband supported me. I was so happy,then one day, he start changing and becoming angry at me for everything. It basically meant that even when he supported me, he thought we were growing apart or i was growing more than him. At this point in time, i want to settle down and have a family,but my marriage is destroyed. I feel empty now and wish i had settle down before and have a happy famliy instead of professional memories
2006-12-17 04:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by confuse06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Saparation are not just to adjust to being alone. Often a separation shows people that time away means you should get back together. Try it and do it slowly with couples counseling.
It sounds like you both need another shot at this. If you are truly soulmates, getting back together might just prove it. One thing is for certain, you will both regret it if you don't give it another whack.
Best of luck!
2006-12-17 04:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you both love eachother and are happy and its only your career that is stopping things I would stop and think twice. Do you really want to be the ceo of a huge company have tons of money and be alone? no family? Think what makes you happy. Where do you want to be in several years? All the money in the world and the best job cannot bring happiness.
Good Luck
2006-12-17 04:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide what's most important to you and what are you likely to regret most if you leave it behind. Sounds to me like the answer is simple. You love each other and you should be together. Compromise a little and you may find perfect happiness. Goodluck.
2006-12-17 04:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by SlayerKat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him that much, compromise.
Get some girlfriends to travel with and come home to a happy husband.
2006-12-17 04:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obviousl. Continue your dream with the world. It sounds to be your first choice for now. I dont believe you're ready to be a wife and mother just yet. You may change your mind tomorrow.
But it doesnt sound as tho it's truly your first choice for today. ;)
2006-12-17 04:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋