Tell her he is cheating, but annonymously.?

Question

A friend of mine's husband has been cheating on her. But I am afraid that if I am the one to tell her that she will be mad at me. I know that sounds crazy, but I know how she is. How can I inform her or even give her a hint to at least pay attention? I thought about sending her some of those "Signs your man is cheating" articles, but how do I send them so she doesn't know it was me?

Answer 1

Mind your business. She already knows.

Answer 2

Send her something in the mail. Or make a fake e-mail. I would not come out and tell her because you might get caught in the middle. Don't be mean, and at the end I would even put a quote about being strong... I would definetly want to know, and if it was by mail or e-mail or person I would just want to know. Send evidence if you can... But then again, if she is your friend.. She will appreciate that you told her. So maybe it would be best if you took her somewhere and told her. She may be upset, but not at you at the situation. If she explodes at you, tell her not to kill the messanger and that if you were in this situation you would want her to tell you... :) But if you absolutely do not want to tell her go with the mail or fake e-mail, make sure it is believable because she may think someone is playing a sick joke..

Answer 3

Type it on a computer, and print it out. Have someone else address an envelope, don't leave a return address, then mail it to her. There is a chance that she may already know this and has decided to ignore it. Don't get in the middle of that, but be around to pick up the pieces and be a true friend when she will need you. Never tell her that you sent that letter. Best of luck to you.......and her.

Answer 4

If you figure out how to do it...let me know. I want to do the same. The only difference is that I am friend's with the cheating husband, but feel more loyalty to his wife having been in her position. But, as someone else mentioned, I am nervous she will think it is me!

I think she is suspicious, from the little interaction I have with her and him together, I just want to get her to "look in other places". He is not following "cheaters protocol" too well!

I am thinking of a simple note with something like "I am not sure if this is something you are prepared for, but my heart says it is the right thing to do" and leave a little hint. If she want sto know the truth, she will look into it, if not, she will let it go.

Answer 5

In her place, I'd want to know, and I wouldn't care if the info was sent in a brown envelope -- a note would be fine, with a little note on the bottom signed "a friend".
"Have been at Jose"s Restaurant several times in the last month after 6:30 in the evening... you weren't there Yuo may wish to know that your husband was there with a woman who is not part of his staff, and it did not appear to be just a little business meeting. They seems rather chummy, , including some tender kisses... I'm sorry but in your place, I'd like to know.."

A friend.

Answer 6

Honesty is always the best policy. Reverse the rolls--if your husband was cheating would you want your best friend to tell you or would you whether let everybody else know and you look like a fool not knowing? From personal experience, I picked up on my husband was cheating . I confronted him, and coarse he denied it 100%. He told he that he would always love me and only me!! I listen to my gut and I was right; it was my ex-best friend. I filed for divorced and give up my godchild because I did not want to come in contact with her mother again. My best ex-friend jumped up and married her ex-boyfriend so when the news got out she thought that no one would think that she had stooped that low. A coarse her married did not last, and my ex got involved with drugs. You know the saying, what goes around, comes around to you.

Answer 7

you have plenty of options you can either just tell her straight out and if you were a true friend then she will forgive you but your not to blame for him cheating send it in the mail or even email it to her but the longer you know about it the more shes gonna be pissed off at you for not telling her i think you should just tell her she might be mad for a while but im sure she'll get over it someone has to tell her

Answer 8

Leave it alone, or have fun with it. I knew a gal that did this:
She knew the female her friend's husband was doing that on the side, so durring his birthday party, she sent a strip-o-gram, in the adulteress' name. The dancer was gorgeous, and did the "happy birthday" song, Marylin Monroe style, diclosing the name of the other woman. The whole thing blew up later on, but it got out in the open, and that is what really needs to happen. The terror on his face still evokes images in my head, "you reap what you sew."

Answer 9

If you have visual proof of his cheating send her pictures of the husband and home wrecker together. Mail them to her with no forwarding address and then she will get to see what kind of slimball her husband really is! Good luck playing a P.I.

Answer 10

You are making this to hard on yourself, If you are positive and know like when and where they meet and you can get your friend to go with you, like out to lunch or whatever, and when you see him say hey there's So and So, and she will see him and who he is with and that should get the ball rolling. If it doesn't then cut out that article and put in the mail with a label address and no return address and or a picture of them. Good luck.

Answer 11

Just tell her. Do you know for sure that he is cheating? Tell her she can be mad at you all she wants but there is something she should know. If she really trusts you and values your friendship she will eventually, or hopefully right away, take your warning and check it out herself.