He asked me and I said I'll think about it.
What should I do???
I don't want to brake his heart
but I like him alot....
Should I say yes???
2006-12-17 03:56:37 · 28 answers · asked by sparkle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I said no.
When I look at my ex I start to cry.
No way can I get married if I didn't get over the past guy. Thanks you guys.
2006-12-17 04:09:41 · update #1
If you are having any doubts at all, then no.
2006-12-17 03:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you are not ready to answer. You first need to find out why you are indecisive. He will be ok, he's not as helpless as you think he is! =)
Tell him you like him, tell him the truth. You cannot get married just because he wants you to, you have to want to. Find out why you don't know.
A good place to start may be literature about anxiety, confidence, etc... There are a lot of good books out there, make reading and the library your very cheap and knowledgable friend.
Another good way is to talk to a professional counselor, they usually have great insight to these problems, maybe after only a couple of sessions.
2006-12-17 12:02:20 · answer #2 · answered by jamisojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say yes unless it is what is truly in your heart and what you want; don't marry in haste then regret it in leisure. Marriages based on lust or just like usually end up in divorce court within two years and devastate both of the parties involved emotionally and financially, or worse yet, if children are involved, them also and you have permanent ties to your ex.
If it is not what you want, it would be less painful in the long run to say so now and allow yourself and the man that asked to be free to move on to someone that will truly love them and they will love...don't settle for less.
2006-12-17 12:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!!!! not unless you are 100% sure this is THE guy for you!!!! DON" T DO IT!!!!
My suggestion is that you find a marriage counselor, if you are in a church, they can help you and insist that he go with you for counselling before you make any decisions.
The mere fact that you are hesitant means you are not really sure about this guy. Don't make a huge mistake that will end up in you being miserable, divorced, or both down the road.
2006-12-17 11:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by markawfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i just got engaged too so congradulations. how old r u? I am 18 and my fiance is 21. are u sire that u love him? in my experience w/ friends and family and personal if u love him u wouldnt need to be told or even ask. just think about that. but if u really ned a friend to talk to or talk about wedding plans and stuff let me know. we just got engaged a month ago and due to some circumstances he had to go away for a yeaar so hun if u got him grab em and love him i cant talk to him until hes been away for 6months out of his year. so not until june. so grab him up.
2006-12-17 12:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by JO- JO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are not ready. You did not mention you love him on your post. Just say no and tell him you want to get to know him a little better. Tell him you are not ready for marriage and if he really wants to be with you and loves you, then he will wait. Don't marry someone unless you really love him/her. It's not fair for him or for you.
2006-12-17 12:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by Meuy V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to asky yourself if you if can see yourself being with this man for the rest of your life. Does he make you feel like a queen? Does he cater to your needs and is he there for you when hard times come about? More than anything though, I'm sure you love him but r u in love with him?
2006-12-17 11:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by iwantalovableguy23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't marry someone you simply LIKE. You need to love them in order to make the relationship work, because this is a decision for the rest of your life. If I were you, I wouldn't marry him.
2006-12-17 11:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends. I would rather spend my life with someone, not alone. No one is perfect, so do not expect perfection after your marriage. Get a hobby both of you can do together. Take mini-vacations of 1-3 days every 3 months.
2006-12-17 12:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one but yourself can decide this. It's a question only you can answer. If your not sure you know what to say. Don't say yes just because he asked. You have to be absolutely sure whether or not your ready for this kind of commitment.
2006-12-17 12:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont make the mistake of your life..! unless you are sure you want to marry him, say you like him a lot but you're just not ready yet!
2006-12-17 12:03:37 · answer #11 · answered by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋