what is wrong/right with my 5 year old son?

Question

My son is very loving playful creative affectionate and intelligent. He can read books, count infinitely, tell you how many quarters go into a $1, $5 etc, will give you back change that doesn't equal $.25...His kindergarten teacher is concerned with his development. He doesn't concentrate on work (bored?). He doesn't pay attention in class. Needs to be reinstructed redirected. She denies that he is disruptive. He claims to need help with getting coat on at school and depends on following another child to the right bus line. he knows bus #, bus drivers name, home address & ph#. He doesn't color in lines. He engages adults in appropriate conversations and ignores peers. Poor gross motor skills, very clumsy. Runs in a skipping fashion. He is very big for his age (looks and articulates like a 6-7 year old) They wanted to have him tested. We agreed over a month ago...then nothing. Now they won't talk to us about his development/findings - schedule a meeting. Any help is kindly appreciated

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with your child. I personally feel that this ADD, ADHD crap is just an excuse because no one nowadays wants to actually sit and and teach and work with our children and give them what they really need, the way "he will recieve it. I used to tech k-5. Everyone doesn't learn the same way. I also have a son that experienced the same thing last year. He is so excited and smart when it comes to school, but the teacher he had was a "wolf in sheep's clothing." Talk to your child find out "exactly what goes on in class". If your son is like mine, he's active, a doer, so he's bored when they are learning what he already knows. Do the teacher try to use this in a "positive way" ? let him be her little helper, buddy with someone who make be have a hard time to help them out. Times are not like it was when we were kids, you send them to school for 8+ hours only to have them come home and most of the time we teach them everything the need to know. "some" teachers just don't care NOT ALL! I do, and I did when I was teaching, I got discouraged how they are treating and barely teaching our kids today, I wasn't like that, I had to leave. Anyway, Find out what is going on in class, Is there someone intimidating him?, destroying his confidence, if he shows no signed of this, (what the teacher is describing) at home with you, TAKE ACTION PLEASE!!! FIGHT FOR YOUR CHILD. HAS HIS ATTITUDE ABOUT SCHOOL CHANGED? Check out the teacher/school also, ask questions, don't believe everything they tell you. Trust me. Even kids in class can cause issues for your child if they are upset that your kids know more than they do, sad to say. As far as need help with coats, and following kids, that the key right there, when in Rome, do as ..... please know that children often do what they see other do in class, it's not rocket science! But if you don't stand firm for your child, they will make a big issue out of it, and it will follow him! TRUST ME!!! Fight like a bulldog baby! God has given us there precious children, they a gifts, treasures from him, Protect him like you would a 20 carat diamond. I'll be praying for you. I knew I didn't go through what I went did for no reason. God will stand with you!! and fight for you!. DON'T stress yourself, because when we stress our babies stress and that only makes things worst. You keep encouraging him, talk to him, "let him" talk to you, but don't press, it stresses them out. This is a big step for him. When you guys are just hanging out, watching cartoons, just ask some key questions in a calm manner. He'll tell you. And as for the meetings, if you have any close friends or aquaintences that are strong in this area, "TAKE THEM WITH YOU !!!", to the meeting. They can give you a clear understanding of what they are trying to say about your child. "Follow your GUT Feeling", if it doesn't make sense to you or doesn't feel right, don't go along with it. you might even need a little hand recorder to record your meetings, ("Some" School officials suffer from selective amneisa!!! "DON'T SIGN ANYTHING!!!! at the meeting. Ask for copies to review, and you will sent them back with your child, or bring it yourself. Go home settle everyone down, then relax and reflect, (make sure it's quiet.) to make a your decisions. If doesn't feel right, don't more on it. Let your conscience(the spirit) be your guide.

Also, if he's never been to daycare or anything like that it's going to take him a minute to adjust. He's used to being in a small environment, (again, not rocket science!) And they know that.
If you're in the Charlotte Mecklenburg school system..... Lord have mercy!!! Hope this helps, I'll be praying for you guys. You child sounds like a shining light, free spirit, done let anyone take that from him. That's what make him, "HIM", =}

Answer 2

Your son is probably bored by kindergarten. It sounds as though he is playing a bit with his teachers in asking for help with his coat and following other children in the bus line. I suspect he is getting some fun out of it, some kind of attention and would not be doing it otherwise. Sometimes getting ameeting with school officials is frustrating. When you do get one, it is often inconclusive and even more frustrating. I am not sure what the school means by "tested", but it could be that they do not have the capacity to test him, either because they do not have a test, it is expensive to administer or they have noone who is qualified to test him. I suggest that you demand a meeting. Call the school, or better go to the school and ask for an appointment with the teacher, any school counselor that is available and, perhaps with the principal as well. They are, after all public servants and you are part of the public.
Most boys do not color in the lines and most five year olds do not also. The "poor motor skills" and clumsiness are likely due to his size and will dissapear in time. Your pediatrician is a better person to evaluate that sort of thing than school personel. If he runs in a skipping fashion, he has some good motor skills and skipping is a rhythmic activity that does not suggest clumsiness.
I suggest going to the school and demanding politely that you be given clear evaluations. Schools will often phrase things in a kind of teacherese when they do not have clear answers. Do not be affraid to ask questions and to keep asking them until you understand the answers you are given.

Answer 3

No one can diagnose without a license, etc and I am not saying I am, but you may want to have him evaluated by a MD team for aspergers. It is a form of autism which is also known as "the smart form" big on mathematics and can relate to adults, but social skills are lacking with thier own age and also things such as basic common sense (as in the coat thing and bus line) and poor motor skills.

Does he wave his hands often (also known as flapping), have texture issues? These are also things to look for.

Law says that if you request an eval from the school they have 30 days to act on it and 60 or 90 to give you answers from it. If they dont do it, call the district SPED office and tell them.... everything should be in writing too.

Answer 4

Ask the pediatrician. He sounds like a normal 5 year old. He may be slow at some things, but in due time he will catch up. I was like that from age 5-7. They put me in special classes, then at 7 my mom had them to put me in regular classes, and it turned out I could read at 6th grade level, but they didn't know because the special classes just kept me at one level. As far as the bus thing, i did that too. It's more of a fear/safety issue, for example-maybe he thinks that they could change the buses that day and he won't get home but the other kid will be with him and help him. I turned out okay. I'm a nurse, soon to be a practitioner, married ,and have a 3 year old child. Your son will be fine, just remember-every kid develops at a different rate.

Answer 5

in case you study the Genesis account, it says that "in the starting up God created the Heavens and the Earth" It would not particularly say at the same time as or how lengthy the starting up became. So the bible speaks of guy's creation no longer the Earth's. And with reference to guy's creation, 2 peter 3:8 says that a million day with God is as 1000 years and 1000 years as a million day. So guy became no longer created in 7 literal 24 hour era days.

Answer 6

I can only say...HE IS 5.... in sweden kids start school at 7 cause then they are more mmature to sit still and concentrate.... even then kids are not able to listen to all...
I think we ask to much of the children ...let them be, let them play and let them RUN....

Answer 7

He sounds really smart, but he can't concentrate, well, I'd say, ADD?

Answer 8

Sounds like ADD/ADHD (similarities to my daughter)