Your signifigant other got out of bed and left the house early every weekend morning, spent half the day persuing his hobby, and never just stayed in and snuggled? Trying to decide if I have the right to be a bit pissy...
2006-12-17 03:35:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do know men are different than women right, does he ever snuggle with you? If he does then it is just not when you like to be and if he doesn't at all then and never has then your expecting something you know will not happen. Hobbies are like anything else, you do them if you have time, I feel like if all my bills are paid and nothing at the house is broken then I have some hobby time coming to me. Waiting around for him is not the answer, and waiting around for him will have you growing a grudge against his hobby and eventually him. Also is this something he was doing before you and him were married, there is a lot of things to take into consideration here, I hope I was some help, Good luck.
2006-12-17 03:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question: Is whining going to help? or should you maybe present your beef clearly and lovingly (yes, you may have to swallow the anger and resentment you have now built up).
Ask him if he can compromise with you. Every other day staying in maybe? Or you two get up earlier and snuggle? Snuggle at night? Decide before you do this, how you feel if you could compromise, if he simply was not willing/able to help you in this matter. What would you do then? Make sure he understands what the consequences are if he cannot help you out here. Would you leave him then for example? If that's the case, let him know so that he can make an honest decision.
"In this case, as with much in life, you don't get what's 'fair', you get what you negotiate"
2006-12-17 11:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by jamisojo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you do! However, only if you have told him that this is what you want and need. Give him the option to be able to do what you want him do. If he ignores your request for snuggle time (remind him that it would be opportunity to get some! lol) then, he is being neglectful. Talk about a compromise. Maybe snuggle time in the afternoons, or get up earlier so that you can have your time, before he persues what he wants to do. Or he can simply start later. You need to tell him what you are lacking in your relationship, before you get pissy!! But, yeah, I would be. I want to be the center of the earth, and the world and the universe, as far as he is concerned!!! (not your hubby, mine btw, just wanted to make that one clear! lol)
2006-12-17 11:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to bed really late, after chatting to people on the net, so that he misses out on the cuddles. Also try hiding the car keys, adjusting the time on the clock radio, or dosing him up on sleeping pills (just kidding!). Yes you do have the right to get upset, and somehow, you need to impress on him the time to devote to his other HALF. Good luck.
2006-12-17 11:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do, but you should try something to change his mind some weekend. Such as find a place the kids could spend the night before and then use you female powers and imageination to persuade him to spend the time with you . Good luck and have fun
2006-12-17 11:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by sickand tired 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be 'pissy' is not going to help you, even you think that you have that right.
However, talk with HIM...
WHEN HE IS 'READY' TO LISTEN TO YOU!
Do not show anger, upset, or be 'revengeful'.
He loves you; and he did NOT make an "Extra Ordinary Mistake'
Guys, are guys! Remember that, all are 'almost' same!
2006-12-17 11:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by Iranian Amigo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be very pissy. He needs to make the marriage his top priority.
2006-12-17 11:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least u know what he/she is doing? Maybe this would be a good time to find yourself a hobby to pass time until they return home or maybe plan ahead of time for a together period.
2006-12-17 13:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by Pam W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd be mad, but partially at myself if I didn't tell him. You should get up and follow him around. That is, after explaining what you want from him. Why do I get the feeling you live in San Francisco?
2006-12-17 11:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would be a little pissed off. Don't give him any sex for awhile. You'll see then how he has second thoughts about running out of bed so quick.
2006-12-17 11:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋