How do I get people to stop talking to me in a condescending manner?
These last couple of years I have had a problem with people talking down to me. Before that I had no problems. What has changed personality that people think that they can talk to me this way? Even some my subordinates at work talk down to me. Thanks for your ideas!
2006-12-17 03:32:07 · 12 answers · asked by DRNoraSarasin 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It seems to me like you have self esteem issues that people can pick up on and they treat you accordingly. Walk into your office tomorrow, hold your head up high, your back straight, and do not smile at anyone. Speak with authority to everyone you come in contact with from here on out and if someone insists on being mean to you, just look them in the eye, and say "Excuse Me?" and DO NOT BACK DOWN.
2006-12-17 03:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
There's probably a reason behind it. Maybe they're looking for a reaction. Maybe they don't think you deserve the possition you're in. Maybe they think they're smarter. Maybe they simply know that you'll let them get away with it.
I have problems with people treating me like a doormatt, and I know it. I know it's because I like to avoid conflict, therefore won't yell at them but more likely just go with it because it's not a big deal. Most of the time they're idiots and I get away with insulting them all the time without their knowledge to their face. But though I do hate being Door-Matt-Mandy, I don't know what I can do to change it because I don't trust them to forgive me for fighting back and I am a very dependant person.
As for what you should do to not cause problems but get them to stop talking down to you, other then asserting yourself in a big way like calling out the biggest baddest person doing it and giving him a good old fashioned beat down *bad idea, bad bad idea*, I don't know. If you figure out how to change the actions of others, please do let me know.
PS. Proof read before you post, there's one sentance there that's easy to pick out that just wouldn't sound right in conversation, and if you were to talk like that they may think you're an idiot... srry
2006-12-17 11:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll you apparently have been letting them for starters mistake #1. Never let anyone talk to you in a manner in which you do not like, no matter who they are. Of course you have abide by the same rule and not talk bad to others either.
I can only guess that maybe you let one person get away with this and one or more saw this and then the perception of you was born. Never have talks of importance in public, do it behind closed doors. If not that then your demeanor says pushover somehow, not knowing you I can relate no further. GL
2006-12-17 11:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them right back in the same way. Be hostile. They'll get the point, and realize that YOU are the one on top.
2006-12-17 11:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Evaluate yourself or your ways... What you project to others is important. Remember that "what they see is what they get". Be observant & choosy. Know the right timing or the right term to use when talking/dealing with people, there is time for every thing... right time when to joke & of course on the right person too.
2006-12-17 12:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by Love Freely 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Remind them who you are and that you are an adult, and if you hold a title, use it. Sounds sorta petty, but sometimes you have to professionally put people in their place, and those things cover all bases.
2006-12-17 11:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You must be giving off the wrong vibes get tough!
2006-12-17 11:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Sidney Snot 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore them until they change.
2006-12-17 11:41:58 · answer #8 · answered by Beancake 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u must be confident in ur manner, speech, etc.
2006-12-17 12:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by quinie leong 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get yourself an i pod and just don't listen
2006-12-17 11:41:18 · answer #10 · answered by Paddy 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋