He had an affair with a co-worker and after I was kinda on to him but i didnt really know yet He told me he wanted a divorce and we grew apart and then we got back together then one day I looked at his email and he had emailed her behind my back when me and my daughter were in the house.He told her that he loved her and missed her very much it made me sick that he could do that to me.He told me nothing happened with them it was just an emotional affair not sexual.I just have a hard time believing him because you dont tell someone you love them if your just talking.What do you think?
2006-12-17 03:21:21 · 19 answers · asked by Kaci L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to seek counseling, there are other problems in your relationship!
2006-12-17 03:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he loves your daughter more than he loves you. Hes trying to make your marraige work for the sake of your daughter. Or maybe he's got too much to lose & not much to gain if he divorces you. Guess hes playing a dirty game with you. The rest is upto you to decide. Warn him & give him a few more chances. By then im sure you will find out if its just a fling or a sexual affair
2006-12-17 03:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by mustafa_burhani52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An emotional affair is more damaging than a physical one... think about it. The realities are, the new shoe is more exciting than the old one and if a promise has been broken repeatedly, the best you can hope for is an amicable divorce/separation. This is beyond a mistake or quick fling.
2006-12-17 03:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going through a similar situation. Except that my husband told me that he had sex 2x with his co-worker. He was very honest with me about everything, which he had no choice, her husband found out the same night(the second night they had sex), It's an easy thing to have to experience. I keep telling myself, I love him, I want him, I DON'T NEED HIM, He still thinks about her and I realize that, but I can only hope and pray that should he decide to do anything with her again, he will leave me and let me go. This just took place in September. They don't realize that they completely caused chaos in 12 peoples lives. You see, I have 4 children and she has 4 children.
2006-12-17 06:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was having an affair and wanted a divorce, then got back together with you and started communication with this person yet again. It's NOT over! Throw him to the curb asap.
2006-12-17 03:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not go back to him - an affair KILLS a marriage. You either kill the affair and try to work it out....or divorce. The other woman is not to be in the picture again - it's temptation. And if he is still communicating with her - he's still cheating. I would leave - you don't deserve a man to invite other women into your marriage bed. Can you go through another affair with your husband? He will do it again. Leave him.
2006-12-17 03:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't what we think, it is what YOU think. If the trust is gone, along with it goes the admiration, respect, and passion, and there goes your martiage. If you wish to try to regain it, get into counseling, but it will be many years before trust again returns. You really don't have a marriage -- you have a roommate who might be your boinking buddy from time to time. Doesn't sound like any real committment here...love, contentment, pampering, a real household in which to raise a child in a loving environment...... Your marriage needs some help, hon, and unless both of you want to save it, it will just continue to be this aura of distrust on your part, and game playing and perhaps cheating on his.... sorry
I gotta say this thought ------ love this line you used "I was kinda on him......" Geez! How did you keep from vomiting in the guys face, hon?????????.... he betrayed you, your marriage, and your union!!!!!!!!!!!!! And you wish to be still married to this guy??? What ARE you thinking?
2006-12-17 04:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bye bye hubby. You can't possibly think that it is a good idea to stay with a cheater when he probably doesn't use protection and no telling what kind of whores he might be fooling around with. You have to take care of you so you can take care of your child. Get rid of him. And in case there is any concern about "religion" and divorce, Matthew 5:32 will set you free.
2006-12-17 03:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by A B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest combined counseling to get to the root of the problems within your marriage. The word love is used too frequently without meaning these days. And one falls in and out of love, all too frequently as well.
2006-12-17 03:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the use of staying with him when he thinks not of you but of another woman. i would set him free and go on with my life. no need of one sided love affair. how could it be a family when there is no love and respect. how could u live with someone u couldnt trust. time is wasting away spending it with him. let him go no need to tie down such kind of man unless ur willing to bear the pain over and over again tru ur marriage lyf. U deserve a better one. i hate to hear men cheating...
2006-12-17 03:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by heavenscent9870 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... he's definitely trying to get u caught into the act... Neva believe him in these kinda activities.... Well, he's got his chance of pulling u into a crisis like dis... why dont u pull him in a crisis... hav an affair with a close person with him knowing abt it...
2006-12-17 03:32:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋