she is constantly telling relatives and her friends everything that goes on in our house.we recently had a verbal fight & i overheard her discussing it with her cousin. Too many people are involved in my household & she voluntarily brings them in. ...pissed-off
2006-12-17 03:21:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know as a women I feel the need to talk and get things out. I mostly look to family and friends to listen not to judge. I also make sure I don't say to much. Does your wife know how much this bothers you? I told my mother to much one time and after that she always disliked the other person and didn't want me being with them. I would explain to her what bothers you and what types of problems can come from sharing to much.
2006-12-17 03:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by stef 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about compromise on both parts, each person must bend a little for the other. If there is only one person compromising then that person will tire of it eventually. Second wives sometimes fall into the rut of constantly comparing themselves with the past wife, always trying to be better, but it means there is a feeling of insecurity which was created at some point. It takes patience and a willingness to try and understand the other person's point of view (on both sides) if you want to successfully solve an issue. You also can't make someone compromise or work things out if they don't want to.
2016-03-13 07:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only natural for your wife to discuss her business and marital issues with friends and relatives. People have a need to talk to people, get things off their chest, maybe vent a little. that's all healthy stuff. If you feel bothered by her telling them everything, tell her how you feel in a nonconfrontation manner, work on being more receptive to conversation with her, and understand that she has a communication need that might need to include other people not involved in these issues so she feels safe talking about them.
2006-12-17 03:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by daddius42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to vent! If you two didn't have such a turbulant marriage then there wouldn't be anything for her to discuss! I say go girl, she should keep an open communication w/ her family...I'm more concerned as to why you care so much. What is it that you are so worried about?!? Are you afraid of looking bad in their eyes? If so, then that should tell you something right there. Now if she's saying things that aren't true then thats just wrong on her part.
2006-12-17 03:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-01-28 07:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she does this bcoz shes very open or still hasnt come to terms with the fact that shes married & that she should keep matters like this within the four walls of your house. Guess she needs counselling. Atleast thats better than ruining both your reputations by allowing her to talk about every little thing that goes on in your house. Everything should be kept between the 2 of you. Take her to a counsellor as soon as possible before things get out of hand.
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2014-08-10 12:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes as women we need to vent and ask for a opinion from a friend or family.I dont feel like thats a violation also women talk about their sex lives poo issues kid troubles its all just part of our nature
2006-12-17 03:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by plumcouch30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-02 09:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women feel comforted knowing that they are not alone, she shouldnt tell everyone!, but maybe a best friend i know that mine best gal pal could tell you when i my hubby gets paid what kind of undies he wears even what toothpaste he uses......but my hubby doesnt mind...you should tell her that some matters are for the home dont yell just bring it up camly when its NOT an issue and draw some lines.....If you dont want her to talk at all good luck you might think of becoming gay because women talk and they will always talk you just have to let her know there is a line of privacy you rather her not cross.
2006-12-17 03:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋