She is married. She is 25 and so is her husband. They've been married about 2 yrs... And she lives with my mom and dad. The husband lives with his mom. When they were newlyweds they rented an apartment together and found they couldn't afford the rent. Then they lived together with my mom/dad, the guy got mad one day and left (went to live with his mom) So now my sister in living with my mom and dad, married and freeloading from my mom and dad (my sister doesn't work)...What can I do , what can the family do about this? This guy she married does have a job, we just are amazed that he hasn't taken any responsibility. My sister and her husband act like they are high school boyfriend/girlfriend sweet hearts. They act like if nothing is wrong with the way they live, though my mom and dad are silently upset about the whole thing. Thank you for all feedback.
2006-12-17 02:49:26 · 7 answers · asked by goldylocks11 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your mom and dad are the ones who need to speak up here. Your sis and mate need to remain married and live together ON THEIR OWN.
OR they get a divorce and live apart ON THEIR OWN.
They are both (supposedly) adults and should begin living as adults.
Parents on both sides need to stop separately supporting them, by taking them back into their homes like children.
2006-12-17 02:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would start putting out hints about places that you think would be nice to work for, just to get her thinking about a job, and also talk about other couples who had to sacrifice some things to make a start of things on their own. Tell Mom that she should lay back and give Sis chores to do and this will give Mom some free time to get away from her and every time Sis goes out and gets a new outfit and etc. tell her that she needs to saving her money if she ever wants to get out with her husband on their own. And your Dad should have a man to man with her husband. Good luck.
2006-12-17 03:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow!! i think thats it definatly time to leave the house and get on with herself and she is married, what type of marriage is it when you dont even live together i think that she should maybe rethink the whole realtionship and maybe you and the family can sit her down and really figure out a game plan, but ubtil then i dont think that trying to put her out is a great answer because she might end up in a bad sitution. so maybe working out a plan for her ask her what her goals are and let her know its time to do something and quit expecting to live off mom and dad... its a sticky situation.. good luck
2006-12-17 02:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by brown_eyedgurl22 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What made this couple take such a decision to get married, is it just sex.
It seems that this couple should feel a pressure to find a solution.
Your parents patience do them no good for their future.
2006-12-17 03:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu can always pack her bags put them by the door and say bye!!! If she's old enough to be married then she's old enough to take her own responsabilities. Tell your parents to give her an ultimatum and give her like 1 month to find a place to stay, if not Oh well, not their problems anymore. They need to stand up to her and let her know that she's not welcome anymore.
You know the dr. Phil saying:
Nobody will do to you what you don't let them do to you..
goodluck
2006-12-17 02:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the parents should get her in a private conversation and tell her they are not pleased with her living there any longer. they should give her the option of paying rent or leaving.
2006-12-17 02:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why did he left??
2006-12-17 02:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by ala 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋