What is it with people and marriage anyway? I mean, what part of the vows seem to not be plain?
Where does it say that you marry for happiness or that you have a RIGHT to be happy in or out of marriage? Isnt happiness something that you have a hand in making or destroying by what you do or fail to do too?
Where is the part of divorce is okay if you changed your mind or dont feel it anymore? Did I miss something? I thought that divorce was only if you are cheated on and you didnt basically force them to cheat on you.
Why is it okay to change your mind or lose the feeling and have that mean something? If you suddenly dont like your house or car or contract obligations, you dont get to just change those. So why do so many think they can in marriage?
Lastly, if you lose that feeling or give up, why should you not have to pay your spouse for not honoring the commitment you made and wasting their time, efforts, feelings, etc?
Am I the only one who thinks this way anymore
2006-12-17 02:40:24 · 7 answers · asked by Mr. JW 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree 100% and I think that there is way too much divorce. People need to rethink before taking vows, as most don't take them seriously anymore. Glad to see someone else that agree's with me for once....
2006-12-17 02:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Megan P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cOOL! U ARE NOT ALONE!!!!Sometimes u need to give up trying if u r constantly hurt, a person can only take so much pain,marraige isnt easy but happiness is very much a part of making someone eles happy too. When u cant do that anymore it is time to move on. Divorce happens for many reasons and problems within a marriage.When it gets to that point. the only thing thats left is a financial obligation that u both aquirered its a contract that must be legalley delt with.U do have to pay for your mistakes financially by law.U do have to pay for what u aquired.Money isnt long lasting so in a few yrs its paid for.Self esteme is forever,.happiness is found . If your spouse makes u miserable its time to move on.thats where divorce is needed.By that time u r in different directions.U wont b happy.there is always someone eles out there. If u take that route its a downward spiral if u r married.you need to b in the same direction to be happily married.You cant list in a piece of paper all the feelings that should b present in your vows cuz u r dealing w/ people . Everyone has different needs.Marriage is suppose to help meet alot of those needs.It should be foever but it wont b when they dont respect the needs.Two people together r suppose to b 1 in marriage.So its not just about luv. U can luv others too.
2006-12-17 03:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that people don't take their marriage vows seriously any more. I think people get married for the big wedding and then they're dissapointed when real life sets in. I take my vows very seriously and believe that when times are tough you turn toward your partner and work it out. Many people turn away and towards someone or something else instead. If you are truly commited to your relationship you can work through anything......of course other than abuse,etc. If people would take the time to really think about the vows first, maybe there wouldn't be such a high divorce rate.
2006-12-17 02:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we look at the history of marriage we will begin to see that it is a dinosaur. Marriage means different things to different cultures. Weather it be an arranged marriage for convenience or wealth, or it be a self-subjugated marriage for love or wealth...
The point is, today's Americans do not find anything of value in marriage or commitment for that matter. Other than a nice tax break their is no benefit to marriage that is held sacred to the American heterosexual.
Without meaning all actions can be labeled as evil (anti-evolutionary). It's only through a reawakening of the spiritual bond that is actually formed through marriage that we stand a chance of the marriage surviving. Without the spirit, marriage is nothing more than a seasonal TV reality show.
2006-12-17 03:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by camus_toe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right people take marriaqge vows way too lighlty any more. I waited for 22 years before I divorced my husband. We had 8 children andhe had cheated on me nukmerous times. I was afraid even witht he cheating of going to hell for divorce. So I put up with it off and on. I had also been hit. Then when the oldest was 15 and working with our permission he hit him because he wanted to pick his own clothes with his own money. I drew the line . I was also alomost hit again. Most people do not trey and work things out they considere divore a way of life. I hated doing it but he would not go to counseling , called counselors the devil and therefore I even had a hard time getting my kids to talk to them. I tried but it did not work. He finally became a caring dad after the fact.
2006-12-17 03:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm on your aspect. this is not any longer referred to as a wedding ceremony settlement for no longer some thing.If he needs to interrupt the settlement (which he already did) then he pays by using the nostril. You held up your end & persisted discomfort & suffering at the same time as he went on his merry way, screwing whomever he needed. He would have a minimum of waited till a separation got here about. What a jerk ! no longer because he's a guy, yet because he lied for your face.. I nonetheless won't be able to have self belief that there are human beings in this international that may do this so really. attempt to stay reliable & keep your reliable moral values intense. sometime, someone new will savor them & you.
2016-10-18 09:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are a minority...lol. But you can just change your house, your car, a contract....you can change anything you want these days, except another person, but everything does have a price.
We've become the dispensable society, everything has a shelf life, even marriage, it seems.
2006-12-17 02:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋