This morning I watched a video I was in, and it was taken over the summer. I looked at myself, and I realised how much I hated myself. I don't really know who I am or why. I'm debating wheter I'm gay or not (and I REALLY don't want to be gay), I constantly wantto change my image by working out and stuff, but I'm either too lazy or just can't get to that point. I think I'm really unattractive to girls, my voice is weird, I have no talent, and I have nothing outstanding about me. I want it to be what I always wanted it to be, but how? What can I do to be what I want, and not hate myself for it?
2006-12-17 02:37:37 · 7 answers · asked by N/A 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm telling you what you are. You are a MAN. And men should be with women.
Just because you had some bad experiences with girls doesn't mean you have to be a coward and think that you're gay. Why do you hate yourself that much? If you don't want to be gay than don't. You can control yourself. First of all stop having wrong thoughts.
In Genesis 4:7 it says: "If you turn to doing good, will there not be an exaltation? But if you do not turn to doing good, there is sin crouching at the entrance, and for you is its craving; and will you, for your part, get the mastery over it?”
Being gay it's wrong and obscene. "What! Do YOU not know that unrighteous persons will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be misled. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men kept for unnatural purposes, NOR MEN WHO LIE WITH MEN, will inherit God’s kingdom." - 1Corinthians 6:9,10
Don't lose hope and be confident. You'll find the right girl. I'm sure. You've got a whole life ahead of you.
This place isn't the best place for good advices. So, don't listen to what some people say. You do the right thing.
For me it isn't that important how a boy looks. I don't need a good looking guy with a very nasty behavior. That makes him the most ugly guy in the world.
Stop hating yourself. I bet you're a good guy who's just a little confused.
2006-12-19 23:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I feel for you I too at one point of my life could not stand myself. I hated myself also. I didn't know where I was going what I was doing but there is some light beyond that dark tunnel trust me. It may be difficult now and it may seem hopeless but there is hope. I can give you some of that if you would like. Draw upon your inner self find out what your good at and do it. Find positive friends talk to people who care and understand you. Remember there are alot people who are going through the same thing you are. This is a part of your life and its normal to feel this way. Also remember feelings are not right or wrong they are your feelings. Don't run away from who you are grow from them you will soon realize this is a life experience who will define who you are. You can't have good without bad. And it will hurt sometimes and sometimes make you just cry and its okay it makes you a human being. And most important love yourself don't worry about others or your image you have to accept yourself because if you don't how do you expect others to accept you if you don't accept yourself?
2006-12-17 02:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by piglet74 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
juz do what u like but juz dont do anything wrong.u said u dont want to be a gay, then dont be one.laziness will bring u to nowhere.humans can change if they have tthe will n perseverance.'the will to change', that will be what motivates u to persevere to reach ur goals
every human has talents.some only have one , but some r multi talented.get involve in the things u like to do and in things u havent done b4.u might find ur talents there.juz get involve in the things uve got a chance to involve in.whether volountary work or helping friends, it can be anything.
.u mentioned that u think ur unattractive to girls but that is only what u think.others might view u as attractive.and even tho girls love attractive men, most of them wont view that as the most important if they want a life-long partner.believe me ive ask many of my friends.one of my friend wants a guy who is slightly ugly coz u know how the society will judge if a handsome guy hang out with an ugly girl, and vice versa.
dont complain about ur voice being weird.look at those contestants in singing contests such as American Idol.not everyone has great voice, some u cant even consider normal.but hey, they have the guts to perform and risk being ridiculed, for example, willian hung.he keep on trying and trying, even tho his voice sucks, he got really popular and many girls want to be his girlfriend.but of coz, if ur not good at something, u can always try something else to see what ur good at.best of luck!
2006-12-17 04:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by quinie leong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is not in my vocabulary, There are times I question myself to. When this happens I meditate and see myself as a special person there is no other like me. Of course there will be people out there that will think differently. just hold your head up, you are just as good if not better then those doing all the talking, Be proud of who u are. Hang in there because there is someone and something out there for u.
2006-12-17 03:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by Pam W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First , you are what you are, you ain't what you ain't. Play the cards you were dealt. Its really the only choice.
Its really ok to be gay. Much easier than dealing alien creatures of the other gender. Or bi or not. Just get in touch with what you are and like.
maybe get a guitar and sing, practice and you will sound better
2006-12-17 02:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
let that concept go about hating urself start loving urself and accept urself as u r inn this moment ahd things start changing don't worry about girls when will be right time and space she will apperar from nowhwere
2006-12-17 02:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i've got 3 words for you.... us armed forces
2006-12-17 03:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny Menace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋