Been with the same person for 7 years and the love is not the same anymore, I care for them but not romantically. The complication is that we have a child together that I do not want to give up or even leave. Suggestion of any way to resolve the relationship are greatly appreciated
2006-12-17 02:02:45 · 9 answers · asked by Blankstare 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's the seven year itch. Better get some counseling. This can be worked out but both of your must try. Do not think it is over. It's will get better with years. You will be glad in future when you are both together.
2006-12-17 02:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Neo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you care. All relationshps have ups and downs and it really doesn't matter whether you're married or not. If you want the relationship to work, you will have to put some time and effort into figuring out what the problems are. Whatever you decide — split up or stay together — make sure the child's welfare comes first. Also, even if you part ways, try to do it amicably, because you still have a child together and until he or she leaves the nest, you will always be connected.
2006-12-17 10:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good communications is the key to any relationship. Start talking to each other. Think back seven years ago. What was it about this person that you fell in love with? Sounds like both of you dropped the ball. The mother of your child turned you on enough to have a child. Find that woman. She is hiding for some reason. Don't blame her for a boring relationship, you were there too.
2006-12-17 10:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by sunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try a seperation to see if you miss the person and if they miss you. Make time for your kid and make sure you split the time 50/50. Sometimes getting away and clearing your head helps alot. You may find that that you can`t live without that person and work things out. Then you may find that it`s the best thing you could have done. Just don`t let it become the childs problem and bring them into the middle of it. Kids remember this and don`t forget so make sure your child is the #1 person that is taken care of here. Don`t let your problems become theres. Good Luck.
2006-12-17 10:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No relationship is the same after 7 years but every relationship takes time and energy to work on.
Talk with your mate and ask them if they feel that the relationship needs working on. If so, get to it !
Health Care plans have counseling on them.
2006-12-17 10:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
spend quality time with this person
look in there eyes and tell them things that will make the relationship stronger
do things together that remind you of the past
surprise him as seen as valentines day is coming up
go on holiday and spend a good couple of weeks together with out the baby
2006-12-17 10:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by honey d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is not working any more it is time to split. Since you are not married you will get the custody of the child. That is for sure. Tell him to see a lawyer if he does not believe or agree about the custody.
2006-12-17 10:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm assuming you're not married? That was where you went wrong. No real reason to keep it going. Sorry.
2006-12-17 10:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe try doing thinkgs when you 2 first met
2006-12-17 10:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by wanda h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋