I have failed my children and everyone else where do I start to try to forgive myself and to start liking who I am
I can not afford help
2006-12-17 02:02:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
stop beating yourself up over things. nobody is perfect. you did your best. everyone makes mistakes in their lives. does not mean that you have failed. stop ebing so hard on yourself. there is no perfect person out there. we all make mistakes at some point. start by looking at the good things about you. im sure that you can come up with many, also..stay around positive people. dont hang too much around the negative people. they will only bring you down more. anothe good piece of advice....check your local newspaper for some free support groups in your area. attend them. they are great ways to get back on the right track.
2006-12-17 02:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by dana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sorry that you're having a hard time and hop that the sites I give you might help.Normally when something goes wrong the 1st person you blame is you,start finding other reasons for the mishaps and stay away from people who blame you for things.You need to put your foot down thats the only way you will be able to start forgiving yourself.Look inside at the good you do and start using that as a balance.Even if its just putting a cooked meal on the table,feel proud and congratulate yourself on your achievement...
This is going to be hard and my thoughts are with you...
Goodluck...
2006-12-17 10:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to start is to accept yourself for who you are, even if you don't like it. Sometimes it may take awhile, but say you have a mole on your face, but you don't like it. Outside of surgery, you can't do anything about it, so you might as well accept it. It's better for your emotional well-being to say, this is who I am than to look in the mirror and say, god, I hate that. Especially if you can't change it. I found that once I accepted who I was --even all the nasty parts-- I started to really like who i was! And if I found pieces that I didn't really like... I would work on them if I could. I hope this helps and maybe you didn't fail your children as much as you think you did.. I know I didn't
2006-12-17 10:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok here it is and it works! From here out don`t do anything ever that you would not be proud to face you family and say``yes i did that`` From here out never do anything you would be ashamed of. Only you will know but it haunts our thoughts forever.Your bad memories will always hurt but will hurt less after you prove to yourself that you are a good person.You must take the hard roads in life for awhile.God only asks that you are truly sorry. He made us with so many faults,,he must expect us to stray sometimes,,,i think he just wants us to see our errors and try harder. Helping others is also great soul candy. Find out how powerful you really are by taking the hard road at every fork.
2006-12-17 10:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by Yankee Bill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step is to look at yourself in the mirror. There you will find both the problem and the solution. Feeling good about yourself is the first step. Then you build on that.
2006-12-17 10:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jim G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have high esteem
you are always forgiven by god even before you do something that isn't really good to do. Love yourself because you tried, and for loveing your children and your family/friends enough to be concerned about them.
2006-12-17 10:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by ipodlady231 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of your good points, then work on the bad.
You can write them down. Mark off the ones you fix.
2006-12-17 10:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then go to your local library and get a book on the subject. Learn to love to read !
Best of luck.
2006-12-17 10:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try to think positive & talk abt ur feelins to others so dat u can reduce ur stress on ur mind
2006-12-17 10:06:49 · answer #9 · answered by Daksh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋