and im traveling to the philippines and some people keep telling me she is just using me to get to the states and dont do it, there are more girls blah blah blah, its just aggravating me because i really love this girl and shouldnt care bout what they say.....
2006-12-17 01:49:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Assess your love to her, your relationship w/ her, her character. Do you really think she's using you? what made you think that she's one of the bad Filipina? (as your friend telling you) is she?
What are the qualities of her that made you be in love w/ her? Is there anything happened or did she ever had a mistake that let your doubt suddenly arise? Not all girls are the same, even they have the same nationality. It's a pity how other people views or just concentrate on the bad side of those Phil. people or other country who has the same situation.
Follow what would really make you happy, besides marriage is really a risk. Good relationship is something to really work-out for, it requires trust, acceptance, pure love... both of you need to adjust in the differences of each other.
it's just difficult to adjust, you have to consider many things... the culture, belief, way of living, character & way of thinking. Well, it's not just you who will do it... she will go the same process as well. Since you are the guy, you will carry her w/ you in states after marriage, which is a more frightening situation for her... new to the place, no family & friends... just living w/ a stranger she love & trust.
For the moment, do what you really want & then if you meet her just find out if you really need her! if yes... go on, marry her! if not... there's many excuses to avoid her. At least you've given yourself a chance to know if she's the one for you or not... than regretting of the things you just wasted that you never did anything for that matter ( a matter which confuse you now & will still confuse on the next day)!!!
2006-12-18 00:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by ayu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry if but I'm having an empression that she might just be using you. I'm a filipina and sad to say there are also gold diggers type of filipinas. I used to do wedding planning and a lot of my clientele are foreigners marrying filipinas, most of these women admit to me that its for the dough that they are tying the knot to these men. So please, be careful about your decision.
I understand that you are very much inlove with this girl but theres is no harm on investigating just for you to be sure. Although we are very much the family oriented type of women and would really serve our husbands, you still cant ignore the fact that it will still depend on the persons personality. If you are going to the philippines for the first time and marry her right away. try prolonging the whole thing and see what her reaction will be. If you do need my help email me and ill be happy to answer you with your questions.
I'm not putting down my own race since I am also a filipina and I do feel proud about it. I just dont like seeing you guys being used like this for a very shallow reason.
2006-12-17 10:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am a filipina sir. if u are marrying a typical filipina then i could say ur lucky bec. we Filipinas are family oriented and we take good care of our husband and kids really well. I have an aunt in US and been married for 16 years to an American. still going strong :) if others say such things to u about this Filipina then there's no harm in checking. may she be a Filipina, a different nationality or same as yours, marriage is a risk. you said you are travelling to the philippines, then you'l have the chance to see it for urself. follow ur instinct. wherever we go there's the good and the evil so be careful. Godd luck!!
2006-12-17 10:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by heavenscent9870 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy christmas for both of u , wish u very good life of your marriage . Wlcome to the Philippines . It is so nice to know that loving a woman that badly . It's true that u will hear a lot of noise about because they frustrated and very much willing to go state. I am married to a Foreign as well. We Filipino are sweet and for sure you've choosen the right for you . may God u both ..Don't worry , that's not true.
2006-12-17 09:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by eternity 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
marriage or any form of relationship is really a form of using one another. while it is true that she's getting the benefit of going to the states. i assure you'll gonna take your benefit as well, a nice typical filipina will be all way faithful to you. unlike in the states, filipinas don't have liberated mind yet. filipinos values marriage very much. you don't have to worry if you genuinely love this woman. she's gonna love you likewise. Just be prepared for the close family ties. this one really the one you should worry about and might affect your marriage in the future. you need to know it and must accept the fact. congratulations!
2006-12-17 10:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to anything but your heart. If you really love her, go for it. I had people telling me not to marry my husband who is Palestinian. They told me he just wanted papers (but he got his Green card 2 years before we even met!) and told me that he would try to make me live in Palestine. We have never even ben to his country after 2 years together and we are living a normal and successful life.
2006-12-17 09:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would listen to those people if I were you, I have known many who were in love with these girls too, they bring them here and then they are devastated when the girl takes off in a year or two.Find a Filipino girl in your own country and that way you will never doubt the relationship.
2006-12-17 09:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Jonathan, trust me, she IS using you to get to the States. Yes, you love her and perhaps she reciprocates, but this Stateside is her goal. Three friends married Filipinas, and all divorced and the ex-wives got virtually everything. And when you marry her, you marry her Whole family!
People say follow your heart. OK, do so. But be practical about it. Good luck and don't forget, we told you so. arf!
2006-12-17 09:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sick Puppy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there r also many ppl who married gals from Thailand. so my friend if u relly love her don ever care how ppl think about her. u want this to happen thne let it happen. u know she is leaveing her country for u , she is new to ur place so take good care of her and love her as long as u can .
2006-12-17 09:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF are you marrying a flip for? Can't you find and American woman? Most (but not all) Filipina LBFM's will do anything and marry anyone to get out the shitehole they live in the P.I. You are are a fool if you get married to this woman. The odds are that she will get to the US and one day after she becomes a citizen she will file for divorce, take your money and your kids. DON'T DO IT
2006-12-17 10:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋