2006-12-17 01:31:32 · 22 answers · asked by watty 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, just love him, like you always have!
2006-12-17 01:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
mmm. Let's think about it... If he had you then He might be bisexual. Now that we got the right term I will say what the hell do you have to confront? He is an adult capable of suppoting himself so If he decide to walk out of your home and move out by himself I'm pretty sure He can do that. What would be holding him back? Maybe you. I really don't know the whole story. But I can tell you that you are nobody to go and try to judge your dad because he is gay or attracted to another man. Did you found him with another man in a bed? Dont think so. ANd if you did and you wanted to say something I'm pretty sure that was a great time to do it and you didn't. That someone tell you I can get that. But still. regardless of what he is or want you should love him and support him, after all he is your dad. The one who has provided for you.
2006-12-17 01:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think "confront" is the right approach, it implies he has done something wrong and you want to "let him have it".
I would suggest approaching him privately and gently letting him know you feel he might be gay and let him take it from there. If you love your dad and he's been a good dad, be sure and tell him so. I bet he has struggled and agonized over this for a long time, so why hurt him? He needs your love and acceptance unconditionally, and so does mom, if they are still together. It's got to be rough, please show compassion.
2006-12-17 01:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was he always a good dad for you? What difference does it make if he is gay or not? Unless you just want to tell him that "you know", and you love him anyway, I believe that your mom should confront him, not you.
2006-12-17 02:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kedar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Need more info but depending on what kind of person your dad is, i would strongly suggest it. Can you imagine how hard it would be to have to live a lie by pretending around the peopl you love the most? He probably hasn't said anything for fear of how you'd react. Let him know with compassion and love and acceptance. You would be giving him the greatest gift! Letting him be himself and knowing he will be loved for that and not just for the front he's having to put on for your benefit. Support is so important!
Good luck and I hope it works out for you and him! xx
2006-12-17 01:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think confrontation is the right thing to do. He has enough just dealing with strangers who will want to be confrontational.Why not just go to him and tell him you know and that he is your dad and you will support him and love him unconditionally as he always has you. He probably needs your love and support more now than ever.
2006-12-17 01:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by oldhippygrandma 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the type of person he is. If you are a close-knit family, and you feel comfortable approaching him and talking to him on a daily basis, then I'd suggest bringing him aside in private and asking him in a very nice and gentle manner whether or not he is gay, and reassure him that you'll love him and support him no matter what. Being in the closet especially for a middle-aged man who's married is very very difficult on them. I've read several books about men in their mid-life struggling to come out to their family due to the intense fear of rejection and hurting their loved ones. A very recent one is the James McGreevey story, I'm sure you'll heard of it when he came out 2 years ago on national tv. In the past, I've gone out with a gay man some 20-years older than me, who happened to be a closet gay leading a heterosexual married life. I didn't know that of course until a couple of weeks later, and he broke down and shared his fears of being rejected and of losing his family, with me. So, I how your dad feels. I sincerely hope that all goes well for your dad and you and your mom and everyone in your family, whether or not your dad decides to come out to all of you.
2006-12-17 01:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by xander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't "confront" him - talk to him. So what - he's gay, he's your dad - love him and go on with your life.
2006-12-17 02:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you confront him ask him maybe he is still your dad. besides if he has supported you all these years how ungrateful must you be to confront
2006-12-17 03:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by robert s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you confront him about? Are you anti-gay? Knowing he is gay, does that make you love him all the lesser? I say leave him be, what if I said that I knew you were straight? Should I go out and rape a girl just to sastify your sorry *** ideals? I don't think so.
2006-12-17 01:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by zzap2001 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
confront or support? I suggest you ask him gently and remember he is still your father. Still the same man he was before you found out he was gay.
Good luck.
2006-12-17 01:34:44 · answer #11 · answered by goddess 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋