should we forgive someone who has betrayed us very badly?

Answer 1

Forgiving is greater than punishing,is the doctrine of all the religions.In fact, u r lucky to have escaped, you should thank the person who has identified himself.,and opened your eyes. Now start life afresh,and find a better and faithful person..

Answer 2

Good question, because for it to matter the person must be very close. I'm naturally very unforgiving, check my last question. But often this hurts you worse than the betrayer.

Now I think sometimes it is better to get very cold and detached about the 'friend', take a good look at all the repercussions. And sometimes recognize that the friendship is too useful to you to take the betrayal personally.

I a-bombed a friendship with a 'totally trustworthy' guy who I had lent money to. Would have been much smarter to ignore the feeling of betrayal and just know I was the one to misjudge him and that from then on he could still be counted a friend but not such a good and trustworthy friend.

Not really forgiveness, but a person has to acknowledge their betrayal and ask for forgiveness for you to give it.

Answer 3

All I can say is that time and again I have forgiven a certain person, and time and again I get hurt. I just forgive and forget. I have been told I'm too forgiving. The problem is I have a very, very short memory. I believe it when they say they are sorry and they would never do it again. You would think at my age I would have learnt. I am a senior citizen. This last time though they have told such lies I hope I don't fall into the same trap of forgetting.

Answer 4

Yes you should forgive, in the bible it says you should forgive. After you forgive you can begin to heal. However, just because you forgive does not mean you must have a relationship with the person. You can move on with your life and let them go in their own direction. Forgiving does not mean you give the chance to do it again. God bless****

Answer 5

I have been betrayed by somebody very badly too..i can understand ur pain dear...first of all you cant forget the pain and agony given to u by dat person in ur life...its so easy to say dat " jus forgive him/her" ..can anybody jus play wid our emotions and v will forgive him??so i would jus advice to keep urself away from dat person and jus try to keep urself busy by hangin out wid ur frends and watchin sum comdey shows etc etc...
dont give dat person an another chance to hurt u by forgiving me..i know it may sound too harsh for some people but dats what i have learned from my past experiences..
i too did forgive sum1 many-a-times but in d last what i got is jus pain and nuthin more...

Answer 6

Hi! I strongly believe in my heart and from experience that we need to forgive people who have hurt us badly.First,it's for our health and happiness.Most of the time the person you hate is having a great life, does not even know how miseriable we are.If they knew chances are that they would be content.When we hate people we are actually carrying them and the hurt every where we go on our back.Just picture yourself carrying a 150 lbs load on our back everywhere we go.That's what unforgiveness do to us.Honestly,in due season we all do reap what we sow.That person who hurt you will reap in due season.Also we need to release that person to God and allow Him to take vengence.God has a way of reversing things BACK.Finnally, if you want to be free and you want peace of mind forgive and move on with your life.That the BEST thing you can do for YOURSELF. GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Forgiveness is what God always do his creations therefore you should forgive everybody what ever or how badly they have done to you.... Scar may not be healed but think that you will make God happy whenever you forgive.....

Answer 8

Forgive them, but does not mean you have to associate with them.Forgiving them you are making peace with yourself by saying sure they hurt me but I have to pick up the pieces and go on with life as a lesson learned.Not dwelling in the past.

Answer 9

if they r feeling guilty of wht thy hav done, thn i think u should forgive becoz to forgive some we need a big-heart. and as everyone in life do some or other mistake that does'nt mean that u didnt hav to forgive. comeon being a nice person we hav to forgot everything and start a new life." ye duniya bahud shoti hai, kya pata kal ho na ho". to kyu na har pal jindagi ka maja le.

Answer 10

depends on how much you want them in your life---not being able to trust someone anymore is the worst. Have been having a problem with that same issue myself. Things will never be the same between us and that bothers more than what she did.