I think in the 1970s, Women's Lib surfaced. Many women didn't want to be stuck at home and donning the aprons, so they went to work. However when they went to work, they realized it was just that - work! They also realized they were not only working a job, but still doing everything around the house. The daughters of the women who did this saw what their moms went thru and said "I don't need this". Now you see more women wanting to stay home. This is a by-product of what happened with the women of the 70s and 80s.
2006-12-17 01:11:26 · 11 answers · asked by L.A. Scene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a SAHM (stay at home mom) now. When I was in the workforce I didn't know one other woman who didn't want to be a SAHM. I think most women are wired to want to be home and raise their own children. In the 70's, working was more like a choice, so those women who wanted to be in the workforce were there. Now it is not as much a choice as a necessity to some women, and they resent the feminists and anyone else who trapped them in it.
2006-12-17 01:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are staying home because this is the only time that they have an advantage. They have to do 85% of the childcare and home stuff anyway. Why not just stay home and do all of it and NOT have a nine to five to worry about? Also, several of my friends decided to stay home after they found out that their husbands were having an affair. Didn't divorce him just said that he would have to pay for everything from then on and accepting that is how they all are. I don't believe that but that is what they say. Anyway, women's lib was a bad deal.
2006-12-17 10:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was a SAHM for 3 years because day care was insanely unaffordable... as with everything for us lower class folks. finances are always an issue, and it gives a SAHM a pretty low feeling when you are at home with no way of adding to the income necesary to survive.
I think you propose a valid theory, but life isn't as easy as you make it out to be.... staying home isn't always a whim, a notion, or something that people just "want" or don't want to do.
the working class man needs to give the SAHM a little more appreciation as well.... cuz as you so kindly stated, she realized that not only is she workign a job, but still doing everything around the house.
go figure.
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2006-12-17 09:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am planning on being a stay at home mom when I have children. For some families it is necessary to have 2 incomes, but the children do lose. My mom was a stay at home mom, and my sister and I benefited from it greatly. Most of the other kids in our classes had working mothers and daycare after and before school. My mom put us on the bus every morning and got us off the bus after school everyday. She made sure we were learning always and taken care of, something daycare doesn't provide.
2006-12-17 09:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think so, but it all depends on the woman. I stay home because I want to spend all the time I can with my children while I can, it won't be long before they are out on their own. I just couldn't live with myself if I worked all the time and left them with sitter after sitter. Single Moms have to do this, this is where it depends on the situation, because it is different for every one.I work hard from home, I take care of my husband and children and I have my own business too.
2006-12-17 09:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, not really, but your thought flow is sensible.
I worked hard for a long time, in a job where I got to see all the stay at home moms. I knew I'd rather stay home.
But, I'm still not a full time stay at home mom, (SAHM), but
if I don't show up, nobody looses any sleep.
2006-12-17 09:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I stay at home because i want to take care of my kids personally and to be with them all the time. i want to guide and guard them in everything they do. i wanna work too but i am not comfortable with the thought of only a nanny taking care of them. i will worry a lot at work if ever. so i better stay at home. The thought of getting a job to help my husband financially isn't bad. If i could only be two places at the same time :(
2006-12-17 09:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by heavenscent9870 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what i see, being a stay at home mom in NY, where it is really expensive to live. sometimes it more COST EFFICIENT to have the one who makes the least stay home to take care of the house and kids. because the cost of child care is soo ridiculously expensive, that persons salary would be just for daycare. and there are a lot more dads staying home then you might think. so, although what you are saying may be true, i think a lot of it has to do with the cost of daycare. its just not economically feasible.
2006-12-17 09:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by bimmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reasons that women gave here for working are valid and legit; unfortunately our kids are losing because of it. Spending time with the children, real quality time, not "here's your TV dinner, now go do your homework because I have cleaning to do and have to go to bed because I have an early meeting tomorrow." Raising our children is recognition within itself. And from a lot of women I talk to, eventually the paycheck isn't worth the double shift they work.
2006-12-17 09:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every woman I know works. What are you talking about? It takes two incomes to survive in this world.
2006-12-17 09:15:14 · answer #10 · answered by Hillaryforpresident 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋