drink driving?

Question

my ex boyfriend got caught drink driving for the second time i would say he must have been well over the limt because he hit 2 parked cars , he did not hurt any one.
i do not feel sorry for him because he should not have done it, he will loose his job because he is a driver and down the line prob his home.
his family are giving me alot of trouble because i seen him eairler in the night . they are blaming me saying i must have said something to up set him (which i really really didnt) it was a polite smile a helllo ,
he is at court on tues what can he expect i know the more that happens to him the more greif i will get of his family (i only stay round the corner)

Answer 1

His family is stupid if they are blaming you for him drinking. It was not you who put the glass to his lips or forced him to drink repeatedly, he did that himself so it is entirely HIS fault. His idiot family should be blaming him for his own stupidity and not you.

I think anyone who goes out and gets drunk and then causes accidents involving damage to other people's property should get at least 1 year mandatory jail time, fines sufficient to cover double the amount of the property damage, plus suspension of their drivers license for an additional year.

There should be NO tolerance at all for this type of behavior.

There is NO excuse for this type of idiot behavior.

Answer 2

I'm assuming that you live in the UK/Ireland as you've posted on that specific Y!A site. I can only give you the information for England and Wales.

Firstly, he will get a further, longer period of disqualification.

This offence is now quite serious, as it is a repeat offence and is aggravated by being involved in an accident. If he was still disqualified when driving this time this will of course make things even worse.

This means he will probably get a significant punishment. Custody is not out of the question, but highly likely is a Community Order with at least a period of supervision by a probation officer and an education programme for drink drivers. If the Court feel it is warranted, he may well have to do unpaid work to pay something back to the community. He may also be recommended for alcohol treatment if it is felt that he has a drink problem, but he would have to agree to this.

Your boyfriend is responsible for his offence, not you, or anyone else. Even if you had upset him, it's down to him to control his emotions and not act in a way that puts other people at risk.

Answer 3

2nd DUI: if he was on probation they bring back the old charges and any time suspended they'll add back on with the new charges. He'll probably get 60-90 days in jail, depending on what he plea's to, some public service time to replace a couple of days jail time, big fines, has to go to alcohol control classes, defensive driving class when ever the license suspension is over (2-3 years?), pay damages for the cars he hit, they may confiscate his car, and he will be charged with another crime of violating probation! Tell him to be sure to bring his tooth brush when he goes to court of Tue! He'll probably qualify for a public defender who will do nothing but make sure he is tried and not get the death penalty. Even if he has a laywer, and especially a public defender, you/he may want to get some other legal assistance like emailattorney.com to help keep an eye on the case from locking him up forever.

Answer 4

What state do you live in? States vary on their punishment. Some states have mandatory jail time. Some states also will require a Breathalyzer machine be installed in his car (at his expense). He will have to blow in it to start the car and also while driving to continue driving. Some states will require 6 month to a year of alcohol classes, 3 years probation, not allowed to drink for 3 years (will be tested randomly), and license suspended. I'm assuming if he is stupid enough to drank and drove after already having a DUI, he probably doesn't have enough money to afford a good lawyer.

It really depends on how the judge is feeling that day and your state laws. Being this is his second offense, don't expect too many good things to come of his court date.

Answer 5

"nd time drink driving is considered very serious by the courts, there is every chance that he will go to prison and get at least a 5 year driving ban.

At the end of the day you could have given him as much grief as you wanted, it was his decision to get in the car and drive, there is NO defence to drink drive, maybe the ex's family need to wake up and smell the coffee and realise that he made the decision to risk hisown and other people lives by driving drunk.

Sorry you are getting problems from something that was clearley not yor fault.

Answer 6

Look, this is as simple as it gets.

First, the only reason he didn't kill anyone is because there was nobody sat in the cars or getting out of one, he is very very lucky not to be going to prison for man slaughter.

Second, he's done this before and so your not at fault here, his family are looking for someone to blame and your an obvious target. If your at all bothered what they think then get HIM to tell them you were nothing to do with it.

Third and this is the big one, this guy is your EX boyfriend and this has nothing to do with you what so ever.
Why are you trying to involve yourself with these people? There should be absolutely no communication between his family and you, get him to speak to them and if there is one more single word said to you then go to the Police.
They will back you 100% and warn them off because they hate drink driving scum bags such as this.

He is your EX, this situation and that man is nothing to do with you.

Answer 7

Depends on the state.. but more than likely he will get 12 mos, serve a few days in jail, credit for time served and the rest on probation, which he won't complete because he is going to get another DUI, making him Habitual Violator, which is THEN a felony. What if there had been people in those parked cars that he hit? Darlin, you need to NOT worry about your lil boyfriend, nor his family (they are bunch of enablers) and worry about yourself. GO BACK TO SCHOOL, and leave the low life alone. GEESH.

Answer 8

He deserves everything he gets and could possibly get a custodial sentence. Lucky he didn't kill anybody. It is not the responsibility of anyone but the driver if he drinks and then gets behind a wheel, if he's old enough to drive he should be mature enough to answer to his own actions. It is no longer a problem for the police alone but society who could suffer from his actions. Many a family has been destroyed by drink driving! Nowadays we are educated from a very young age that it is not acceptable. It is not you they should be condemning but their son.

Answer 9

Everyone makes mistakes and your ex-boyfriend has made a mistake. He doesn't deserve to be stoned to death because of it. He will get punished by the law and should accept the punishment.

My advice to you would be to don't look for the negatives - I would do my best to help and support him and his family. There is no point in creating enemies just because someone has made a mistake.

One day it may be you that makes a mistake and everyone may be pointing fingers at you. It's not nice. Everyone screws up many times in their lives.

Give the guy a break and lets all get on together rather than looking for reasons to hate each other.

Although it probably doean't feel like it, there are people in the world much worse off than you!

Answer 10

he will have to do some jail time and loose is license and pay some big fines. He will have to attend some classes to get his license back. He will also have to pay for these classes. Don't take no flack from his family. You didn't twist is arm behind his back and make him drink. That was his choice. I have a lot of experience with this situation because my husband has been caught before. He has lost his license til 2009.