He contacted me out of the blue, and I assumed it was for a booty cal so I became defensive. Of course he did to and wondered why I was thinking like that. I apologized, but made him understand that when you are broken up with someone and months pass and they contact you out of the blue it's generally because they want to go back to something that is familiar. He got it, and said it was cool. The next day he sent me a massage during my lunch brake to ask me how my day was going which was kinda wired, he even threw in there that he was off that day to, but I did not ask him why was he telling me that. My gf said he probably wanted me to say come over, but I am still not over him so of course I am not going to do that because I am not sure if I could handle those emotions yet. I sent him a text and asked him to call me when he was free and he did. We talked for about an hour about nothing. We laughed, joked, and avoided anything about "us" that was 2 days ago. So what happens next.
2006-12-17 00:53:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Am I suppose to contact him, play it by ear, or initiate something. I want to talk to him, but as long as I keep things the way they are I can protect my hurt which is not good if he want to get it back. We are friends so the break was not so bad where we could not talk to each other, but I don’t know what I am suppose to do. What is my part in this.
2006-12-17 00:53:15 · update #1
It sounds as if there is still a flame burning for him. Next time he calls tell him that there is absolutely no way he is going to have sex with you again, ever. If he calls back to chat or just wants to be around you then he might have grown up a bit. If he has a good job and seems mature enough, why not try again. If he is just working to get between the sheets, and you tell him no way, he will move on to greener pastures.
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2006-12-17 01:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even consider taking him back after all this time has gone by. It's plain that he is down on his luck with other girls and he thinks you're cheap enough to take him back. He doesn't love or respect you, he just wants a girl until things get better for him then he's gone again. Change all your phone numbers so he can't contact you that way and if he shows up at your house don't let him in and tell him if he doesn't leave you'll call the police. This guy is nothing more than a loser, so lose him. He played you once and you're still not completely over it, so don't let him play you again
2006-12-17 10:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by bear4141usa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably he is longing for some more of what he had with you and unfortunateky, it is most likely sex. I have been through this a lot, where my ex calls "out of the blue" and has been feeling me out to see if I'll visit for a little intimacy- often I have given in but it is just prolonging the inevitable: if you two broke up already, there's a good reason why and it won't go away. So know that if you are tempted to "take him up" on his invitation to get together again, it's probably just because you 2 are both having a hard time letting go of something familiar and not without its bonuses.
2006-12-17 09:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him make the next move. It is entirely possible that it could be a booty call if he has been without any for awhile. Go slow with him and make him date you a few times so you can really guage his motive.
2006-12-17 08:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Alexandra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be blunt and ask him exactly why after all this time did he contact you? Don't try to second guess his reasons why, find out why.
2006-12-17 08:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you FEEL you have to do...and don't feel bad under any circumstances...even if you'll get hurt again..life isn't so yesy sometimes....don't analise this so much...do what you want/like/make you feel good.
2006-12-17 09:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by meninne3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back
2006-12-17 09:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by sweetslover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋