and i always prepare myself for the possibility.
but it is not really a good idea, and no matter how prepare you are and how open minded you are, it always hurt.
even if he always says how much he loves me, it still cannot hide the fact that once in our relationship he hurt me and fall in love to someone else.
to you guys.. why do you have to do this thing?
why cant you trully love your wife and be faithful..?
do you know how painful it is to your wife?
don't say that wife also do such things.. but man are more into this stuff than woman.
2006-12-17 00:44:50 · 10 answers · asked by labs 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all...you should not lump all men together in one huge group...there are just too many individuals out here for generalizations like that to be made.
Second, people in general...not just men...look around...comparison shop as it were. the difference between a head turning glance and an affair lies in the person involved.
Men, or women for that matter are not "destined" to cheat...even if they were "born that way", by the time they become married, they should be adult enough to control their actions. I also believe that they should be responsible for their actions...and this sort of destiny excuse don't fly.
I should point out that by "preparing" yourself for the possibility, you are encouraging it. Your standards are the worst behavior you will accept before you take action...and if he has cheating, and you are not taking action, then you are approving it. Bottom line...you have to act...like it or not.
Now, this does not mean that people should not get second chances...everybody gets a second chance...but third and fourth chances are a different story.
2006-12-17 01:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a polygamous marriage. I am my husbands second wife. It is hard for both the women and men. There is alot of jealousy and pain. But if the husband is fair and loves both equal it is fine. My husband tries so hard to be fair between us, he is getting there. It does always hurt and sometimes I regret marrying my husband, but then I see we are a family. I honestly couldn't live without my husband and his other wife is also a major part of my life. She is a good woman and a great friend. I love my step kids like my own children.
2006-12-17 01:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a generalisation. Generalisations are quite often not a good thing to believe in. I am a man. I have no polygamous tendencies at all. I am purely monogamous, and could never think of having more than one woman. I love one woman, and I intend on being with her and only her for the rest of my life. As for the men that do cheat, I'd like to know why they do it, too. I don't understand what makes them want to cheat.
2006-12-17 00:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by Enceladus 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A healthy male will always notice females.
They notice them at work, out running errands, on TV, and on the internet. In short, everywhere they go.
Make time for intimacy in your schedules. Take a look at time frames and pinpoint the down time spent for you and him alone. Share the Tantric Sex or Kama Sutra sites with him. Dress in something you would never wear out of the house. Tell him the things that you admire about him. As you talk and interact make note of the things that make his eyes light up. Incorporate this. Become that shadow of a mistress's worst nightmare. Assure your man that you do not desire for him to hide his sexuality from you, but share it. Keep conversation open and keep your mind, calmly, open to the information he is comfortable sharing with you. If he trusts that you will truly accept his fantasies and desires, and he actually opens up and shares......be prepared for the most incredible experience of your Life!
2006-12-17 01:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think humans are polygamous by nature, both male and female. If we were meant to only have sex with one person, than why can we be in love with someone but still desire to have sex with someone else?
At some point in every ones life they need to differentiate between making love and having sex. You make love to your lover and have sex with others.
Perfectly normal and very healthy as long as you practice safe sex.
2006-12-17 00:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Alexandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Im a dude and I would never fall into this catagory.. We of course are the silent majority.. And I agree with Delux ger above . get lost with your Spam oraca girl, your a pain in the ****
2006-12-17 00:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with that. My husband is a 1 woman man. some days I wish he would cheat then I would know that he is still capable...I'll leave that comment off there.
2006-12-17 01:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Orcal_girl
I'm going to make it my days work to report all the spam you put out today. Did the same thing to "man" yesterday! You're the same person aren't you! Advertisements are illegal on this site....scram!
2006-12-17 00:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i cannot accept it, no way, but i'm afraid its true. since they dont consider sex to be any kind of commitment, and females to, it think sex is just the way to trick them into marriage, because it is making love for us.....or we want it to be. a professor of mine was laughing at the term "to make love". its all about that. they need more partners because that shows them that they are potent......i guess
2006-12-17 00:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by LadyPandora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think mother nature wired them that way
2006-12-17 01:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋