my ex boyfriend has just got caught dkink driving for the second time. the first time was 9 years ago. this means he will loss his job and eventually his home because he drives for a living.
i do not feel sorry for him because he should not have done it , he is at court on tuesday
i am getting alot of trouble fromthe family because he saw him eariler in the night and they are saying that if i did not see him he would have got angry and ended up getting in the car later.
does any one have any expriance in this do u know what will happen to him when he goes to court
2006-12-17 00:28:44 · 13 answers · asked by clairexxxx 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
he hit 2 parked cars but did not injure any one
2006-12-17 00:53:19 · update #1
He`ll probably get his license taken away
2006-12-17 00:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by bwfc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how is it your fault that your ex is not an adult, and unable to properly deal with things
who cares what happens to him. Its unlikely that this was a one off offence... its just that this time he got caught. Drink Drivers tend to be risk takers, tend to think they can get away with it. His family may be trying to transfer the blame on to you, the only way I think they could do it legitmately is if you forced the booze down his neck (knowingly or otherwise) and then took him to his car... Im guessing highly unlikely.
Perhaps his family should be givign him a hard time for ebign too thick to know that drink driving isnt a good idea, especailly at this time of year. That he should know what the cosequences of being caught Drink Driving are, and the likely impact on his life, his house etc.... its not your problem its his.
as regards possible sentances... depends on how much he was over the limit, and whether the eaelrier drink driving can be admitted in court. If he is slightly aboive the limit, and the other convinction is excluded he may get a fine and possibly a short ban. if the other conviction is admitted and /or he was significantly over the limit, and/or he was caught because of another traffic infraction (ie he had an accident involving injury to a thrid party) then they sky is the limit.. it could be prision, it could be heavy fines.. in any event its almost certainly a driving ban.
He needs to talk to his employers to see if they can put together a vital employee defence. he need to brush uip on his humble pie routine, the court may be less severe if he can demonstrate he is sorry, drivign is vital to him and his company, and his family.
but all in all in terms of problme ownership its his problem, he owns it, he's created it.. let him sort it out, don't let his family try and transfer blame for his poor judgement onto you, nor should you shoulder nay blame or responsibility for it.
2006-12-17 08:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mark J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Meadowmal,
You did not drive the car!
You did not have the drink!
HE made that decision, not you. Personally I believe drink drivers should have an automatic life ban from driving. Get caught again and 2 years in jail! It was a selfish idiot like him that nearly killed my ex-brother-in-law and his wife.
Just dump the loser and move on, next time he could kill someone, and there will be a next time. If you are in the car with him it could be you. He can't even take responsibility for his own selfishness and stupidity. You really want to be with a bloke like that? Someone who thinks a few drinks will make everything ok again?
He will probably get a 3 year ban and a fine with costs. Should be a jail sentence!
Good luck.
2006-12-17 10:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by LYN W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope he gets a 20 year ban and 20 years hard labour
so what if he loses his job someone could have lost their life
I enjoy a drink as much as the next person , but I know the law and stick to it it's no good saying he did not mean it or he was under pressure
just be grateful he did not injure anyone OR DID HE
2006-12-17 08:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by welshelf 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i too have no sympathy with him either.
It IS NOT your fault, he chose to get in the car and he knew what he was doing.
I'm sorry but he deserves everything he gets, he could of taken an innocent life with his stupidity.
I think he will get banned and a big fine.
Personally i think he should go to jail to teach him a lesson.
People do get killed by idiots like that, and if i was you i would want nothing to do with him or his family again, how dare they blame you?
2006-12-17 08:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's lucky he wasn't in an accident. You're lucky he's your ex. Don't let his family lay a guilt trip on you. People who drink and all of their enablers are always willing to point the finger at someone else. They need to take responsibility for their own actions. Hopefully, the judge he goes before will see to it that he does. He will probably have his license revoked. Stay away from his family, and their denial.
2006-12-17 08:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will get about a 3 year ban,fine from £5-800, and a proper telling off from the court ,told he will be jailed if he does this again. Its his stupid self that got him drunk and drove the car, so when hes looking for someone to blame tell him to look in the mirror...drink driving kills people,...dump the loser
2006-12-17 08:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by STEVE T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore his family, it's not your problem. But if the court can find hardship - like driving is his living then a heavy fine will be introduced, if lucky.
2006-12-17 08:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what sentence the judge decides to give will not be harsh enough.
a year ban and a fine is just a joke. at min it should be a life ban and a unlimited fine. plus if involved in an accident attempted murder should be added and if some dies in the accident they should be charged with murder.
2006-12-17 08:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever he gets won't be enough. Drinking and driving.....the pits of behaviour, and now his family are trying to blame YOU!!!
I think the "Big E" is called for !
2006-12-17 08:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting trouble? I presume he's an adult. He is solely responsible for his actions and will lose his licence. All his fault and not yours.
2006-12-17 08:36:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋