how do i get my family and they're freinds to accept my lifestyle?

Answer 1

Just be patient. As long as you don't constantly push the issue most of them will come to accept you as a gay man and a member of the family. However, many of them, although they accept you, they will not accept your life style.
When my partner and I first decided to live together, we vowed that we would try to keep the support of both our families by including them in our life. That summer we planned what we called 'Our Families Union Picnic'. We invited all members from both our families. That first picnic we had only about 12 people attending. We held the picnic every year for 13 years and by the time the last picnic was held we had over 80 members of both families including all the children as well as the senior members. Everyone looked forward to the annual get together and were disappointed when we had to stop holding them for health reasons. However we are constantly being asked to various events held by both families.
Just remember, that you are a member of two families now - the one that raised you and your new gay friends. If you can possibly help it, don't forsake one in favor of the other. It is sometimes hard for you to deal with the stress, but remember it is hard for many in your family as well. Let them know that their acceptance of you as a family member is important to you. Good luck!

Answer 2

If you mean a M/s or Mistress/Master and slave lifestyle or D/s, Dominant and submissive lifestyle, you probably won't be able to. My adult children and I have a "just don't tell me about it" agreement, where they know what I do, but don't need any details. My submissive's adult children are more open to discussion and even making fun of it. All the kids are supportive.

Would I expect my parents and brothers and sisters to be? Nope, although I am out to one neice and one sister. But I'm not interested in explaining or defending something I've lived for so many years, and frankly I don't give them opinions about their lifestyle either.

My friends are lifestyle friends. They are my peers, my confidents, my support and the people I enjoy being around. I don't get involved with vanilla people unless I have to, like work.

If you are already out to your family, then stop talking about it. M/s and D/s is all about consent, and by opening yourself up to them, you have actually ignored their right to consent. For your friends, same thing, but I would strongly suggest you start moving away from those people as you no longer speak the same language and develop friendships within your community.

You state you are a "slave" which in M/s or D/s is a consentual negociated and contracted "slavery". That means anytime you are out of consent, you can walk away. If you have a Mistress, Master or Dominant, you need to discuss this with them and adher to their direction and guidence. If you are not currently collared, then you need to stop using "slave" as a descriptive term. Without the corresponding partner, you are simply a submissive or even a bottom. Consentual "slavery" comes from a state of mind and heart, not just because you don't want to take responsibility for your actions, which is typical of male "slaves".

Again your local BDSM community is your best resource.

Answer 3

well first off if you're talking about the gay lifestyle then just don't care. I have found that when you don't make it a big deal to be gay then no one else will. However if you start caring and sucking up to them then they will try to break you down real quick. when I came out to my parents I knew that there could be some consequences to my actions but I didn't care because they don't have to live my life, I do. I refused to be unhappy because someone else is unhappy when my lifestlye effects them to the least and even if it did it still wouldn't be a big deal. The point is if your family and their friends have a probelm with your lifestyle, for lack of a better word, F*^K them.

But that's my opinion.

good luck

Answer 4

There is no reason why your family has to accept you or not. What you do behind closed doors is your business. There is no reason they should have any involvement or knowledge of what you're doing in bed.

Answer 5

There is nothing you can do to get people to accept your lifestyle. They either do or don't. If they love you, you will have to settle for that. You're the one who will have to accept the fact that they don't. It's possible that with time they will. I suspect there's many a parent who doesn't approve of a child's lifestyle but loves them just the same.

Answer 6

If you're doing something that they don't like maybe you should listen to them and make sure of what you're doing. If it's something that you know deep down is really you and you can't hide it any more, just talk to them, explain why you feel the way you do and ask for their support. If they really love you they will come around. Talking is always the best way to reach someone. But sure it's not something that is going to hurt you in the long run.

Answer 7

We cannot demand anything of others not lest our families, we can only hope that they will at least understand our position and let us get on with it, not everything we do is socially acceptable to others.

Answer 8

Whatever, it's not your problem it's their problem. Seriously, if they can't accept it then screw 'em . Who really cares in the long run. You can't make anyone do anything. Just move on and don't dwell on it. Just remember that you aren't the one with the problem.

Answer 9

I never told my parents, to avoid conflict. Only my brothers know and my friends. I found out what type of friends I had when they acepted me who I was, very gratefull.

Answer 10

You can't make anyone accept you. However, if they really love you, they should accept you no matter what. If they can't, then don't torture yourself by continuing to subject yourself to their rejection.