Gentlemen, be honest with yourself, and me.
The day you got married you promised to love honor, and obey, and yes you made a promise to yourself, that you would make that woman happy. Did you, or did something change.
If so what was it, and how long did it take?
2006-12-16 23:00:48 · 10 answers · asked by celestialangel43 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men are not to obey the wife, for he is the head. He is to consult her and treat her as his mate and partner and he is to be the head of the family, which mean he can be counted on and followed. Most women hate to hear that anymore, for they dont want to accept it. Maybe what people want to accept or deal with it part of what is wrong and results in so many divorces.
As far as being responsible for making her happy? Right, uh huh. Dear lady, have you ever sat down and looked at and listened to some women? Many of them cant figure out what will make them happy from one moment to the next. It wont matter what you do. No, the man is not responsible to make her happy. He is responsible to uphold his vows and to do what he commited to God and her to do. It is not her task to make him happy, but to live up to what her job is and what she commited to do as well.
Think about it. By your logic, an I suppose to make you happy by letting you do just what you want? Are you suppose to make me happy if that would entail my having a girlfreind with your permission? Maybe all this we are supposed to be happy or have a right to be happy is to blame for so much of what it wrong. You cant be truely happy doing the wrong things. You can only have temporary enjoyment. Sadly today, we never seem to learn that or face up to the fact that happiness is not a right, especially when you are doing wrong or having the wrong attitude or values.
2006-12-17 02:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes I do love; honor; and obey as far as the
marriage vows go, and she does the same
that is why our marriage has been going strong
for 20yrs. The key is both partners have to
love; honor; and obey the marriage vows, to
include respectiing one another and communi-
cation, these are the keys to a good healthy
and lasting relationship in a marriage.
2006-12-17 00:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a man, but I did make that same vow. I have yet to break it. Almost 10 years...I do think that my man however, has gone backwards. He used to treat me like a partner, a lover, a friend. Now I am ignored on a daily basis unless I have forgotten to make dinner or pick up the house...I think all time about getting out; let him sit here in front of his computer and let me have some freakin fun for a change!! Oops..sorry to get off track, I have my own issues to deal with!
2006-12-16 23:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by nh_lady_2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah that sounds like a good idea. Should I love honor and obey her boyfriends too? what a tard. STFU
Actually I didn't recall promising to obey either, but I figured with the new Femi-Nazi movement they prolly had to mess up the vows too.
2006-12-16 23:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do husbands promise to obey? I thought it was only wives.
Some wives would not be happy no matter how hard the husband tried.
We must be happy anyway, no one else can make you happy. Every one will let you down some time, husbands, wives, children. Learn to be happy in your self don't relie on others to do it for you.
2006-12-16 23:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by older mum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did, for 48 years, she didn't, six times I had to try and forgive and forget.
I would like to know, myself why women, some, stereotype a man that's the one that doesn't keep his vows.
I have worked myself into a dillimena of health problems that have almost killed me to make her happy. I have walked a straight line and did the best I could. I didn't drink until she begged my to start so we could go "out like the rest of her friends" and have fun. Just going "out" wasn't good enough, I had to "drink" also.
I washed clothes, cooked for her and the kids, I worked overtime that compared to twice the normal work week, all to no avail, she had six affairs and asked that I forgive and forget. I did forgive but, how do you forget? Now, you tell me what happen? we're old and frail, I'm tired and to old to start over, who would want me now? I don't know what happen.
2006-12-16 23:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reliable one. I as quickly as knew a pair who had a puppy snake named Obey. They named it that because of the fact the female had refused to have the understand their vows, and compromised by utilising naming the snake her "detestable" be conscious. Kinda humorous, i presumed.
2016-10-05 10:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by murchison 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years and counting of faithful marriage.....hmmm did i just look at my wife like she was my next meal??? this tiger needs to go on the prowl laters..
2006-12-16 23:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by bill6866 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as far as i know they have ommited the word obey from the marriage vows,as they should,don't you think?
2006-12-16 23:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would u say u had a baby when u were 9
WTF
2006-12-19 11:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly Bundy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋