why after you are married for 10 years your seldon want to have sex even though when she have she enjoys it ?

Question

she say she love to have sex but not often i am 52 and want sex three times a week but she dont what can i do .

Answer 1

sometimes takes a while to start up the engine,try being more affectionate in other ways first,holding hands,little kisses,whisper in the ear,flattering comments,relaxing backrubs,this should help it would put me in the mood!

good luck!

Answer 2

I love some of these answers from other women: "too bad - masturbate." "just do what she says." Friggin' brilliant.

Why is it that sex problems have to seemingly be reduced to simply what the woman wants? If turnabout is fair play, then in all emotional matters, men should just say, "I know you want me to talk but I am tired and i don't feel like talking. So talk to yourself."

Instead, consider a compromise. You realize of course this type of sexual incompatability is a real marriage breaker, and that asking a woman before getting married about "are you giving me 3 bj's a day and anal on Fridays just to impress me, or will this continue after we get married?" is very important. *Plenty* of women cool off after marriage.

But that horse is already out of the barn so closing the gate now doesn't matter.

Work on the compromise part. Sit down and say, "look - I like sex, and when you have it, *you* like it, too - right? Or are you faking it a bit to make me feel better?" Get that out the way first, since that's another crazy thing women do - fake enjoying sex! geezus that one always gets me. Anyway after the shock of her faking a number of "orgasms" wears off, tell her you want to set up a 3X weekly schedule on even weeks and a 2X weekly schedule on odd weeks. So the 1st week of the month you pencil in 2 dates. They are flexible but you get the idea. Week after that, pencil in 3. Repeat. Now you are averaging 10 times a month and brother them's d*mn good odds right there. If she can't agree tell her "I didn't get married to masturbate. The understanding has to work both ways. If you're not in the mood for intercourse (remember I talk to you all the time when I'm 'not in the mood'), help me list other things we can do that you are in the mood for. Here's my list: bj's, oral, did I mention bj's, lube up your t*ts, back door, massage each other with a happy ending, porn and a nice slippery handjob/bl*wjob from my adoring wife, etc. What's your list, hunny?"

Good luck - just ask that the understanding and compromise work both ways and not just devolve to the least common denominator.

Answer 3

Each makes differently, including sex drive.

Even though I think sex is important, but it's not that important.

Answer 4

whack off a lot or find someone to cheat on her with.

It is her responsibility to satify your sexual urges as your wife - if she is not then she is neglecting you. Find someone who will do her job for you.

If you feel guilty about it then perhaps you should let her know that you are considering it. then take it from there. If she is indiferent then she doesnt really love you anyway so maybe it is time to move on anyway.

good luck with that

Answer 5

It's not the number one thing in one's life anymore. There are other things that are more important, that become more important.

Answer 6

hey if she doesnt feel like dont force her find sex from someone else

Answer 7

just simply tell her you are going to find a companion for sex. see what wonders it will work out.

Answer 8

compromise and then the rest of the time...take matters into your own hands...good luck

Answer 9

wat u can do is generate interest in ur spouse and stop pressurising her giving her the space she needs and being an understanding husband

Answer 10

den respect her .