Is there something wrong with me ? . Am i a bad person for wanting to achieve something in life ?. Why do bad things happen to good people ?. I wish someone could tell me the answers.
I feel that i need to get this off my chest and if anyone out there can help me make sense of what has happened thats cool.
I am not blowin my own horn here but i am an honest caring genuine guy yea i do sometimes wear my heart on my sleeve Iim not perfect i do have faults but who dont.
Goin back to bout 94 or 95 i met my soulmate and for the next ggez was it 8 years anyhow we were in a happy relationship sadly my love passed away thru cancer it was like a bolt from the blue. I was dumbstruck. Took me ages to get over it.
After a while i thought i was ready to be with someone else and move on. I met someone and to cut it short the person turned out to be an alcoholic an a contol freak. I wont go into detail how i was treated but lets say it wasnt good. After that it seemed to go from bad to worse.
2006-12-16 22:49:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I am so sorry for your pain. I really do not think there is an answer. All that I can say is to take one day at a time and try to keep yourself together. As we get older, we look back and realize that we made it through those rough years and it has made us an even better person--but as we go through those years, it is so rough. Try to keep busy--busy enough not to dwell on these painful issues. If you believe in God--do some praying that things will get better. Good luck in you life.
2006-12-16 23:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody has the answers.
I started asking this question a lot myself about a year ago, when my significant other was diagnosed with cancer. He's 26 years old, and in his lifetime has been abandoned by his father when his mother chose to leave a Communist country, served military service where he was shot twice and had to have his thighbones replaced with steel, and was married to a woman who left him with an eight-day-old baby that wasn't his (who he takes care of and supports on his own). The cancer was beaten, but he was left with lupus as a result, a chronic, debilitating disease.
The best answer I got was from a Buddhist, who blamed it on karma from a past incarnation. I don't know if I believe in reincarnation or not, but so far it makes the most sense. Still...there's never a satisfying answer.
2006-12-17 06:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by angk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some will say its just 'Bad Luck'
Others will tell you its a "Black Cloud with a silver lining"
What I feel is that it is more like Karma, or the 'Wheel of Life'.
All things good are typically followed by things not-so-good.
The Good things you are thankful for but you never forget that it is the 'up side' of the wheel and times will get worse eventually.
I do not have any 'magic faerie dust', and if I did I wold gladly share it with you. But I can offer this one small thing...
It is nothing personal in my opinion..... there is no 'God' looking down on you saying "Take THIS..!!!" It is Life and it is impersonal, it happens because it happens and not with any real heavy reason. It is the 'ebb & flow' of life.....
2006-12-17 07:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by wolf560 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Nigel so sorry to hear of so much misfortune in your life, I have experienced similar pain and as I get older I realize that life can deal you a horrible hand of cards at times and you have little choice but to play them as best as you can.
It is all too easy to go down the road of self pity for so many people today and I am determined not to go there myself,life is hard for most people even those with great wealth experience the death of a loved one or the child addicted to hard drugs.
We do however have to be very discerning in our choices in life and never rush into them blindly.
I wish you all that is good for the future.
2006-12-17 07:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sentinel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with you. Bad things just happen to people all the time.You just have to pick up the pieces and keep going. Stay strong and don't feel alone.
2006-12-17 06:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by tinamaries43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you inspire others by your writings do not give up for you have a gift. your writings are a gift granted to you so that you may inspire us all.
2006-12-17 06:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by scooprandell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋