she will not be honest about what transpired between her & this guy. she states it was nothing physical but an emotional affair.There were times when she was gone for at least 5 hrs,but she say they never secretly met..... should i keep digging for the truth??
2006-12-16 22:47:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you dont trust her your love is gone...
2006-12-16 22:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First thing : the one giving the advice is not the best to follow it...
- If you don't really want to know the truth this , don't ask.
- Stop digging for the "truth" since you will never find what really went on even if she tells you some part of it
-Ask yourself this question: do i still love her? If yes forgive her past "emotional" affair...
-Ask her this question: what would have been her reaction if you were emotionaly involved with another woman?
I think the most important thing is not what she did even if it hurts a lot but what you will do together from now. Will she stay with you or not? Don't you give her enough emotions so that she tries to find it elsewhere ?
When you can answer these question honestly, then your problem will be nearly solved.
I wish you the best in your last.
2006-12-16 23:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by jys 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no bennifit for her in ever telling the truth if something happened. It would be pointless to even ask her.
I'm sorry but I don't buy into this " It's An Emotional Affair" Crap.
She is an adult living an an adult world, This "Emotional affair" will turn into a phisical one if it hasn't already.
Instead of asking about her indescretions, try asking her what is wrong with your relationship. Wives who are happy and feel loved by their spouses don't often stray. Maybe things are too far gone to change them now. Only you two know the answer to this.
Good Luck
2006-12-16 23:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Bill I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes an emotional affair is much worse than a physical one. But, remember its not that the other person is better than you or hotter than you. Its the way they make you feel when you are with them. It sounds like it is over between them and she has decided that you are the one she wants to be with. Or she would be with him. I say let it go and give her another chance. Try opening up more and let her know no more. If she needs emotional support that it must come from you. Lots of Luck.
2006-12-16 23:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by just peachy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Men don't just want a BJ. You will be agreeing to more without even knowing it. You need to stop. He's married and you know it. He's a cheater and he's done this many times. You aren't the first and you won't be the last. Tell your friend you work with to stop this bad behavior. By messing with a married man, it is preventing her from finding a real boyfriend that will love and respect her. This guy is just going to use her. My guess he is much older.
2016-05-23 01:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly my friend, do you want to know. She may have had an affair, but if you love her you can look past it and she will see that nothing can stop you from loving her. Let her know that you wish only for her to be honest and love you. Look her in the eyes and ask her if she will love you and only you forever, ask her not to turn away as she answers you. you will see it in her eyes. Your conscience has told you, your conscience is the voice of truth, it guides you, you know what has happened, follow what is right. You will do only what must be done in order for you to be happy, in this I wish you well.
2006-12-16 23:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by zelin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mind is made up and you will not believe anything other than that she is having / did have a full blown affair.
Did you ever think maybe she is telling the truth?
Maybe she just needed someone to talk to.
I have been married for 34 years and I can relate to sometimes needing someone to talk to, but I aways make sure its a lady. Did you talk to her as much as she would like/need? My husband doesn't.
2006-12-16 23:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by older mum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop digging....is sounds like it is over and you two are still together....what will learned every little detail do for you? Nothing except cause more stress and heartache....The fact that she had some type of relationship with this guy is on the table...either forgive her for this indescretion and work things out to keep your marriage together or move on with your life...either way, stop pressing for more info and instead focus on healing...good luck
2006-12-16 22:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
See if you can get that Cheaters show in on the act. Maybe you can catch her and confront her on national tv. Let her talk about her "emotional affair" in front of millions of viewers. That would be cool.
2006-12-16 22:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by gabound75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the guy she is cheating on. Be brave and ask him or beat the information from him.
Ask him not her. Or get one of those detectives to do it for you.
I would just go follow her and catch them red handed. Don't be a pussy.
2006-12-16 22:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by justfornets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is telling the truth.
Your real problem is that she should have had that emotional affair with you.
Why can't you have an emotional affair with your own wife?
2006-12-16 22:54:32 · answer #11 · answered by Darth Vader 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋