Calling all life coaches. I need help!!!!!!! Serious answers only please!!?

Question

i`m the kind of person that hates to be lonely and the longest iv been single is about 3months, im emotionaly dependant and iv found that i get hurt easily. I used to be very confident but recently realised that my confidence has been slightly dented. Iv decided to be on my own for a while so i can get intouch with myself again, realise i dont need to be in a relationship to be happy and work on getting a successful career. Can sumone help me or give me tips on how i can learn to rely more on myself and get intouch with my inner being

Answer 1

Well, as 1 who has been on my own for more years than I want to admit it starts 1 day at atime. Yes, some days are better than others but, you find ways to get past them. Plan some things to do on your own and go them. Like a movie or going out to eat. Maybe go away for aweekend. Start small and little by little it will come natural. Make some new friends but, know that only you can live your life no matter what anyone else says. If you ever just want to vent or just say Hi [e-mail].
Good Luck.

Answer 2

Take as much time as you need until you do feel confident on your own. This time varies for each person, but it is an important step to take.

Try new things and expand your horizons. It doesn't have to be huge, but even smaller things can help build confidence. Try cooking something different, or if there is something you've always wanted to try, give it a go.

Remember that setbacks will occur, and it is not by any means a failure. You would not have achieved it if you had a partner. Know that you are a capable being, and work on your confidence.

If you are spiritually minded, definately try meditation or yoga. Expanding your spiritual awareness can help you to feel less alone.

Also dont forget that although you may not be looking for a partner, this does not mean that you have to shut out friends or family. Building solid relationships with these people, can help you when you do find a potential partner.

Answer 3

I used to be the same way...I hated being alone so would go from one relationship to another with only a short break in between. I learned that I was just filling the empty space in my life but not really getting much out of the relationships. I decided to just be alone for awhile and work on myself and my life. It was time well spent, I learned alot about myself and what I truly needed from someone else but most importantly from myself. I read alot and spent alot of quiet time soul searching and thinking about my life and the choices I'd made. I learned alot about my inner self. I would advise you to do the same thing. It's hard to expect someone else to fill our needs when we don't even know what those needs are. Also, it's true....you have to learn to love and accept yourself before you can expect anyone else to. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I know you will think I am joking but I am not, go to an Al Anon meeting, which is basically for friends/relatives of alcoholics,but the groups centre on you and how to develop yourself,they do not talk about the alcoholic. I go for myself, it has helped me both at work and in my private life and taught me to value me as a person and helped me be more self assertive and to value myself. You are never asked to give your full name or any personal details and you dont even have to speak unless you want to. You can meet some great people as well. Good luck

Answer 5

whilst my relationship of three years ended, i got here upon myself in a gloomy hollow. I by surprise realised that I depended my entire life and my entire being onto one individual. i attempted, as no longer ordinary as i could desire to, to flee my flat (our flat) throughout the time of the night because of the fact I dreaded being on my own. the 1st night on my own replaced right into a b1tch. I felt aweful, yet desperate to a minimum of something approximately it because of the fact i had to create my very very own happiness as a substitute of transforming into that dependend on others. I made a catalogue approximately a thank you to fill those evenings and weekends. I loved pictures, so each and every weekend I went out fo city to take pictures. I loved cooking, so I joined a close-by young ones club that replaced into searching for chefs. I additionally wrote down each and each of the flaws that have been "me": pastimes, innovations, and so on. I took a on an analogous time as, yet I eventuelly realised that being on my own isn't a bad element. Now i'm in a clean relationship, and that i like it to have an afternoon ( or weekend) to myself. no longer because of the fact I dont wanna be with him, yet because of the fact I basically wanna be with me.

Answer 6

you need to learn to love yourself so that you dont feel like you need to be in a relationship to fulfill your self. Read book called in the meantime by iyanla vanzant - and also a book called the four agreements!

Answer 7

medetation can help you