He says its only a professional relationship yet i found a card with "lots of Love Becky" on it-doesn't seem professional to me !!?
2006-12-16 22:29:54 · 28 answers · asked by liz_jefferies 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he knows it bothers you and still chooses to do it you are coming second in this scenario and the other woman comes first. You need to decide if you are happy being plan B or weather you need to become someone else's plan A. If you give an ultimatum you will likely lose him so just tell him it's over and watch how hard he tried to keep you.. you might be surprised at the lack of panic in him. All the best - don't sell yourself short.
2006-12-16 23:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking the opposite to lunch without others present is not very professional. This is strongly frowned upon by many professional companies. This is how affairs begin. If he is not taking your feelings into consideration odds are he is interested in this female workmate in a intimate way and not just professionally. Your feelings and your relationship together should come before all else. If he takes people of the opposite sex to lunch on a regular basis with others present it should not be a problem. But this does not sound work oriented in any way. You could not say any thing more and find out were it is they are going and spy on them but why stoop to his level. Come straight out with it. Ask him who will all be there and check the Internet out on the subject, as this conduct is highly frowned upon. He could also have you there at lunch with him if just the two of them are going and in this way it gives you a chance to be put at ease that nothing is happening. If he loves you and cares about his relationship with you then it will not be a problem. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-16 23:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait.....he's taking her to...LUNCH?!? Well, that's it, they must be having wild sex in the toilets at every opportunity!
For goodness sake, don't be so petty! People I know can't stand me often sign cards to me with 'love', it doesn't mean anything. If you have other evidence, by all means discuss your worries with him, but if this is all you've got you sound like you're just very jealous and that will cause a much bigger problem in the relationship than Becky.
2006-12-17 00:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did you find the card?
Was it hidden or out in the open?
Was the card just a christmas card or something else?
Cos I tend to sign all of my cards with 'lots of love' to be honest, and it really dosen't mean anything.
The fact that he has told you about the lunch makes me think it's above board, but if you're getting alarm bells ringing then you must listen. There's possibly other things that have built up to cause these alarms ringing in the first place.
And men are stupid, he probably hasn't thought about any implications.
I guess you already know what to do, but are looking for one of us to validate it for you.
Good luck hunni, hope it turns out well for you.
2006-12-17 00:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by DMar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to sit down and have a talk with him, explain how you feel, maybe he feels there is nothing in it but how can he be sure of what the girl thinks or feels?
Would he like you to go out for coffee with a male friend?
No im sorry he maybe an honest guy but i would never trust another female.
Then again you can ask him to take you along to meet his work collegue...............good luck, set the record straight now.
2006-12-16 22:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by Caro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry but if you found a card saying lots of love from Becky on it that should sound the alarm bells sounds like he is up to no good he may not have done anything yet tho
2006-12-16 22:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by nicolefrenzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's not right. I would have said it's just work until you mentioned the card. You're alarm bells are ringing for a reason. Turn up at the same place where they are having 'lunch' you will know then for sure. I bet he tells you a different venue...
2006-12-16 22:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by jeeps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to do things that will not bug him, like if your topic is always about his female colleague all the time, i think that is not a good idea, instead i suggest you strengthen your relationship with each other, do things that your partner would want you more. make him fall for you more. consider that female collegue of his as a fire in the furnace that will make your relationship with your boyfriend become purer.
2006-12-16 22:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by blue violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how often he takes her to lunch and if they do anything else outiside of work if this is the case then yes there is a problem but if its just within work then i feel u should give him some ground to move, as for the card depends what the card was in relation like to a birthday then yes its ok but if it was just a normal card then i dont think so
2006-12-16 22:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by ozcall2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do women all ways think the worst OK she may have been stupid and sent the card,but do you think he is daft enough to leave it in a place for you to find if it was any think out of order,as for the works do maybe its for staff only,or its just what he said it is
2006-12-17 00:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋