School is a Jungle as everybody knows, In first year I was always hanging about with my friends during Lunch....then I stopped. Now hardly anybody in my CLASS knows who I am and I hate it! I wan't to make friends and stand out and be Confident, but I just dont have the self-esteem, what should I do??
2006-12-16 21:48:07 · 16 answers · asked by ♥Pucca♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your name shows that you are a lovely person, so come on! Talking to people isn't that hard. Whenever you see a group of friends talking, you need to remind yourself of all the good things about you and go for it, talk to them. Engage in their conversation or start a new one! If people are as lovely as you are, I assure you, they won't bite you!
2006-12-16 22:10:19 · answer #1 · answered by Little Light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to look at the reason why you stopped hanging out with them in the first place? Then, you just smile and say hey to everyone you see walking down the hall. Hold your head up and show them who you really are inside. Whatever issue made you stop, I'm sure you can talk it over with friends. If you initiate the conversation they will listen. good luck! :)
2006-12-17 05:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by smylee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, you can not be something you are not, or you will get false friends. It sounds like the friends rom the first year were a bit shallow if they now deserted you.
Try doing something outside of school, an activity, and make friends there, yourconfidence will improve, and some of the others in your class will eventually notice you for what you are.
2006-12-17 05:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by DAVID C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya
Well i use to feel the same as i didn't no anyone at my new school. However i saw who i wanted to be friends with and just started talking to them and working with them during group work at school. After a while they started asking me if i wanted to hang about with them in and out of school! I know you may look at this and think i just can't go up to them and start talking to them but just go and stand/sit near them in class and chirp in a bit if they are having a discussion! They'll soon start knowing who you are x
2006-12-17 11:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by Emz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get to know some people in your form class, and talk to anyone else you see on their own, chances are they're feeling the same as you. Also if you have hobbies, you should join a group or a team, no matter how stupid you might feel you'll make friends who have the same interests as you. Good luck xx
2006-12-17 07:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by katze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same as you Gurl but I have solved mine-----It's pretty easy but a hard Test for you... When Your Enemy approaches and starts teasing you, Just smile and Go away. They will think of this Idea: "Wow! Whats got into that Gurl?" And the next time you see them, Be Kind to then and Start ding errands for them. Your not a lazy-headed Jerk now, Aren't you? Huh? Now GO out And DO YOUR STUFF GURL!
2006-12-17 08:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by reabartolome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet some new people. When first saying hi, you should ALWAYS look confident. Look them straight in the eye and smile. You should probably start off with "Hi, my name's ___________. Aren't we in ________ together?"
Or just join a club with a small amount of people so you can befriend the whole group. AND you'll have topics to talk about with them. Easy peasy.
2006-12-17 06:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem when I changed school. No worries though. You can try to talk to people who share similar interests- for example in sports and start to hang out with them.
2006-12-17 05:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by Wongm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am a 50 year old Scottish man living in Essex England. Even as an adult I feel sad and angry to think that I never had a single friend during my school days, but was bullied left right and centre virtually from day one.
I always walked in the playground alone terrified that I would bump into the bullies. During secondary school the bullying got worse and I was more terrified during playtimes, instead of walking alone in the playground I spent all my time in the boiler house talking to the boilerman who was near retirement age, if either of us got caught we would both have been in trouble.
I hear about these school reunions, but it breaks my heart to see and hear people enjoying the experience that I will never have.
I hope these bullies rot in hell for making my life so miserable.
One of the main bullies that bullied me the worse, I got so upset by his actions that I shouted out to him I hope your mum or dad dies for what you have done to me and for making my life so unbearable. To my horror his mum died just before I left school at 16, it made me feel terrible that I said this and it happened, because the lady did me no harm, I have been a soft natured person throughout my life and did a lot to help people, infact as a youngster I spent my weekends and school holidays travelling to the Little sisters of the poor in Greenock Scotland, it is a convent with nuns running a home for sick and poor old folks, I use to help in the hospital or medical side helping the njuns with the old men by feeding, washing, shaving them and generally keeping them company, I also made them their tea and help wash up afterwards. I found this place as a place of safety fror me away from bullies in gangs.
The convent is still in full operation today, it has had major building work to it, which I noticed on their website.
Even up to today, the nuns will bump into my mum up in my hometown and ask about me, they still remember me after all these years, approx 40 years ago, it must be the young sisters now 40 years older.
In some way, this is my only reunion that I would like to have to bring back some good memories as a school kid, after all I first met the nuns when they came to my school and see if any kid would help them etc, as far as I knew I was the only one as there were no other people there other than a man and 2 young girls from glasgow, I also did a few sponsored walks with the nuns raising a lot of money for them, the nuns were my only friends that I can remember.
Getting back to the bullys mum that died, I didn't mean for it to really happen,I said what I said out of anger and upset at the time, even today and I am still upset by his actions towards me, but I still feel terrible for what happened to his mum, you only have one mum, it would Kill me if I lost my mum.
Sorry to jump in and out of a different subject..
2006-12-17 07:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by DIAMOND_GEEZER_56 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i no this is tacky but be yourself, ive found that i can be popular and be someone else, or i can be popular and have true friends, if i just be who i am. and if you want to be a leader, act like one, but in your opinions, and walk with a steady stride and your head held high, even in some of my darkest hours, if i smile and walk like i mean it, people still look up to me, also if you start to make alot of friends, dont get a big head,they might adore you, but friendship goes both ways
2006-12-17 06:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by moneymatters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋