Do u stay in a marriage after 12yrs of mockery & 4 kids later 4 the kids because you r a christian?

Answer 1

IN MY OPINION, I SAY "KIDS ARE BETTER OFF IN TWO HAPPY HOMES VERSUS ONE UNHAPPY ONE."

GOOD LUCK AND HAPPY HOLIDAYS.

Answer 2

All I can say is - get out of there! Do you have ANY self esteem left? Christian or non-christian - what are you going to say to your children when they ask (later down the track when they're late teenagers/adults) "Why did you stay with him?" Do you think you're kids are going to respect you for doing the 'good christian thing' while being treated like crap. I don't think so, in fact they will respect you more for having self-respect and leaving. Don't think kids don't see what's going on. You can only hope that your kids won't emulate the behaviour your partner has treated you to, later on down the track in their relationships. Don't worry about what anybody else says, you have to be strong for you. Because when you do say you are leaving, your partner will lay it on thick and guilt you into staying. As you have stayed as long as you have I suppose is a tribute to your staying ability or is it stupidity (no offence intended). I know myself it is easier to stay than to start again, but please - think of everyone's future here - yours at the top of the list and then the kids. Look around u - who will support you in your decision to leave? friend? family member? You need someone to help keep your resolve up - if you want to go that is. I left my marriage after 12 years and 3 kids - my family was with my exhusband - great hey?! but I knew I had to do it because it was the right thing to do. The fact that you have put this question on the net - says something doesn't it? Sounds like u want to go, but need the courage. If you are in fact a true Christian - use the faith that you have and believe in yourself. You deserve it. I believe in you. Good luck and be strong.

Answer 3

No! I don't believe I could have stayed 12 yrs and 4 children, why did you? Being a christian, is being honest with yourself and others. You have not done this your marriage. How could you love a man who mocks you daily, causing you to feel bad daily and teaching your children that this is OK, you have allowed him to believe that its OK to teach you this way What would you say if your daughter was married to a man.. just like her father. Its OK , he provides for his family and you are a christian; so you must forgive him for the rest of your life? Your father was the same way and trust me you just accept it and be a good wife, I did it and so can you.
Is this what you would tell her? If not, what would you say, when she tells you, in tears that her husband mocks her all the time and she sad and depressed every day? then practice what you preach

Answer 4

I became a christian after I left my marriage of 15 years with my 4 children.My ex husband played mind games, he was a horrible, violent man.
I did that, I stayed in that marriage 4 the kids sake, so i thought. I was pathetically wrong.
The only best thing out of that marriage were my children. Don't blame christianity for your decisions.Just don't marry a man with issues.

Answer 5

I was brought up in a Fundamental Baptist Home where the Brain washing went on in Sunday School and Church---UNTIL death do you part----I indured 10 long years of physical and emotional abuse with 2 children born out of this 10 yr prison sentence.

In 1981 survival mode kicked in---and it was I that decided this man wasn't going to be the death of ME and our 2 children! I left him and divorced him and never looked back.

Just because you classify yourself a christian doesn't mean you need to stay in a relationship (marriage) because you're a martyr! If you're that miserable---either seek counseling or file for divorce!

Answer 6

Im only young, and i admit, ive never been married etc, BUT i was raised by a single parent and i dont think you should put up with mockery. It may be against your religeon but its NOT worth a lifetime of unhappiness.... it could even be verbal assult and your partners way of controling you.... I WOULDNT STAY

Answer 7

Based on the word "christian", i am answering this question. Christ suffered alot, received an insult, etc. because of you and I. Have you forgotten your bible so soon? Do not give-up. Please remain and look up to Christ for your support and counselor. Remain blessed.

Answer 8

You would have to define mockery for me. Nevertheless, do whatever you are comfortable with. It's better for you and your children.

Answer 9

what kind of god wants a person to be abused in any way? Not mine that's for sure. I'm sure yours will understand that you've tried. Leave!

Answer 10

divorce plz..