i'v always known that i was but i just never told any one but i came out to my friend a little while ago and she said its all cool then she told me that shes gay and that know that every one at school knows that i should tell my family before some one els does.........................well should i?????????
2006-12-16 20:35:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i think it is too early in your life to really know this for a fact. You might just have a school girl crush this will go away in time. SO keep this to yourself unless you feel comfortable talking about your feelings to your family.
2006-12-16 20:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you are NOT bi, and you didn't ALWAYS think you were. You're only 13. This is the age when you finally stop thinking that the opposite sex is gross and start looking at them a bit more intently.
You're being brainwashed by the media that's telling you that if you're a girl who likes to kiss girls, you'll automatically be more popular with men. If you're claiming to be bi, then you're admitting that you still like boys as well as girls, right? You're seeking bisexuality as a method of becoming popular. Don't do it.
2006-12-16 20:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with sister eve. It is, in a way, a sin to be bi, even though you can't help it. It is normal for girls around 13 to have attractions to other girls, but it's usually just a phase. You probably have nothing to worry about.
I'm 100% straight and yet... my friends keep calling me bi... I think it has something to do with that!
2006-12-17 00:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would wait a bit before making a decision about your sexuality. I think at 13 it is quite normal for ALL girls to have feelings of attraction and "crushes" on other girls.... I did and almost all of my friends did as well; however, most of grew out of those attractions. Wait until you are a bit older to label yourself, and in the meantime have as much fun as possible!
2006-12-16 20:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 13.
If you go to your family now, they'll just think you're going through a 'phase' even if you're not. Unless of course, you've got a really good speech lined up for them.
The worse part is, if your family is very traditional, they might not accept it. They might try to so-called 'convert' you.
So my advice is to just reflect for a while and think if you're really bisexual. Because if you are, then you don't need to be afraid of them trying to brainwash you. Trust me, you do not want to go to the brainwashing stage.
After that, take your time. Prepare your speech. Prepare a day. Choose someone whom you're closest to in the family. Tell him/her first. Try to pick the most open-minded person.
After that, you can call for a family meeting, etc. (don't do it over dinner, etc. It tends to get ugly) and slowly explain to them. Don't just blurt it out either, take your time. Tell them how you feel, what makes you think you're bisexual. And most importantly, tell them that they're your family and that they're really important to you. That's why their opinion of you matters to you. So ask them to please be able to do the same for you and accept who you are for you. Ask them to understand.
It'll be awkward during and after. Give it some time, don't keep shouting about it afterwards. Just keep it light, make some jokes. And slowly, they'll get around to it.
2006-12-16 20:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by Diamond 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why do you sense the want at 15 to make your life harder? in case you're bi you're fortunate-stay decrease than your homophobic mum and dad radar till you turn 18 then do what ever you like.
2016-10-05 10:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are too young to identify your sexuality. You are going through your growing years where you are changing, your body and personality. I think that could complicate things with family members. If you truly believe you are and feel it necessary to be honest about your sexuality with your family, then you should tell them. Better early than late.
2006-12-16 20:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by Noneyabusiness 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no you should not come out till you are 18.
and don't listen to anything love share has to say.
2006-12-16 20:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to agree with john john.
2006-12-16 21:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by Whava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it to yourself until your 100% positive
and what business is it of your parents who you're attracted to?
2006-12-16 20:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tim M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋