2006-12-16 19:39:26 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my special friend is someone ionly know through text, but things not going to well lately with my husband and my friend always is always only a text away
2006-12-16 19:52:19 · update #1
my special friend is someone ionly know through text, but things not going to well lately with my husband and my friend always is always only a text away
2006-12-16 19:54:25 · update #2
Why not? The heart has no limit. Loving one does not mean you cant love another. It does, however, mean that you have to choose.
Loving a lover is different from loving a spouse. In loving a lover, one seeks enjoyment, pleasure, new expereince and such things, but in a spouse it is different. Each of the things you may expereince with a lover could enrich either or both of you. Things that forward a relationship with a spouse enrich a different entitity - a couple.
That is to say, the things you gain in a casual relationship are still held seperate form the other. You may grow, they may grow, but in a couple the "we" grow. The "we" may seem tired and dull sometimes, but it is stable and you probably have a great deal invested in it. The energy that goes in to an outside relationship could make a currant one as freash as it once was.
I'm not one who says always stay with your spouse, but I do advise looking carefully at what you have.
In regards to the people that have said it is okay if it is only your heart. Don't listen to them, physical infidelity is a small thing compared to emotional infidelity. If your "special freind" in your heart or your loins?
On the otherhand, perhaps your freind is just a total studd ( or studette, I don't know) and that is the only thing on your mind. In anycase, I wish you well.
2006-12-16 20:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by Zarathustra 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've been in an very similar situation. When somebody pays you attention like your 'special friend' does it's really flattering and makes you feel sexy. If the kind of conversations you have with the friend are pushing your buttons then you should strike up a similar style text conversation with your husband while he's on his way back from work or something. It'll give you the opportunity to talk dirty to each other without the embarrassment that can come from doing it face to face. Basically you're taking the energy you get from your special friend and injecting it into your marriage.
Once things pick up a bit with your husband you'll find you won't need the friend as much more than just a friend. Good luck x
2006-12-16 20:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mary-Jane, Mary Jane, you are comparing your husband with someone you have never seen, met spoke with OMG you don't know who you are dealing with here, waken up before its too late.
The best thing you can do is make an excuse to your husband re your phone number, change your phone number and NEVER have contact with this person again.
Make your husband the centre of your life again, it may be hard if there are problems but work on the problems little by little and each day you will become stronger, do things together involve yourself in each other life, I hope you will be able to soon look back as see how stupid you have been. Stop all contact as from now with the text buddy. good luck you can do it :-)
2006-12-16 22:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy sending the text is more like a fantasy, he always says the right things, he is always there when you need him, but your husband is there for you also, and if you would turn to him and lose the other guy things will work out for you. You say you love your husband, but do you really? The grass always looks greener on the other side, but it isn't. Don't throw your family away for a fantasy.
2006-12-16 20:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by bear4141usa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bit confused by the term "special friend"....
I suspect that you are falling in love with this "special friend" (let's hope it's a human being)......
It's perfectly OK to love more than one man (with your heart, that is)...if you wish to do so with your body, you need to first consider whether or not you are willing to gamble with your life as it stands with your husband. If the answer to that question is yes, then follow your instincts.
2006-12-16 19:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the actual incontrovertible truth that u are calling her a particular woman chum would strengthen a lot of concerns if i replaced into your spouse. i does not have a difficulty with my husband having female acquaintances yet you want to appreciate there is this kind of element as dishonest emotionally. you're meant to percentage your existence with your spouse emotionally and bodily. once the emotional connection is lengthy gone your marriage is going to crumple, women human beings position self belief in this connection. in case you percentage this emotion connection with this different female you'd be very much surprised to comprehend how rapidly this would turn actual. the actual incontrovertible truth that you're on right here asking if that is dishonest ability you already experience this courting isn't ideal, so that you want to drop this different female in case you extremely love and favor to be with your spouse.
2016-11-30 21:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
curiousty fantasy o things could be so differant reality kicks though where is it going with speical freind a whole lot of heart ache and pain try and concentrate on your marriage if not working get out take time and think about what you really want out of life it dont work jumping from frying pan into fire it burns take it from someone who has been there and done it
good luck find happiness
2006-12-16 20:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by rabbit18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mary is your friend fem or male? I dont meen to be nasty so dont worry. Do you like this person quite a lot ? Are you actually dreaming about them ? are you bored with your married life. Do you have children? It sounds to me like you are just fedup with all your life and want to start a new one with someone else. All I can say babe is that you have to make your own mind up, and dont listen to people saying yes do it or dont do it. Just sit down and think and decide what you want in life babe. I think you love your friend and you are going through hell trying to work it out.
2006-12-16 20:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you say you love you husband then there is not nothing to worry about
its naturally to be excited about a new friend bout you know there is a line you do not want to cross
people go through things all the time
How about you try talking to your husband and try texting him maybe it will be funner
2006-12-16 19:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by yomom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may not entirely be able to control your thoughts, but you CAN control your actions.
How important is your marriage?
If this other man is a potential threat, you would be wise to stop texting him and concentrate on working on the more important relationship.
You cannot stop birds flying over your head but you do not have to let them build a nest in your hair!!
2006-12-16 20:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by alan h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋