hello friends
arranged marriage system is strange but ppl say it survives.. lets start from begining .. man and woman know nothing of each other and are not let to meet each other even after engagement .. alas they may know the truth abt each other .. the marriage based on 100 lies and many from ur close relatives.
ur married to a family not one man .. satisfy all in family
how many are happy with arranged marriage .. there may not be divorced but happiness counts .. men plz back off .. u will never have prob in arranged marriage .. ur opinion never counts in satisfaction .. u get almost everything u want in arranged marriage
i want true story and no guess please
2006-12-16 18:52:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ur asking question on wrong forum ....
if u know properly ... man guys will support arranged marriage and women who answer are obviously happily married and very few in number ... but only these ladies have time to answer ...
coming to men ... all retired and useless guys will raise their hands to support arranged marriage ...
it is true that marriage is based on give and take ... wome give and man take ...
adjustment is for women obviously ...
no do i care to write more .. it is useless .. u will learn soon that .. u met wrong ppl on net .. u have screwed up with all nonsense guys
2006-12-16 19:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that an arranged marriage can be confusing since two strangers have to accept each other for as long as it goes. One minute you are a stranger, and the next minute you have to live together, sleep with each other, share so many things, etc,etc. All that can make one think that it would be difficult for an arranged marriage to work compared to a love marriage. But, when one looks at the rate of divorces, love marriages take the fore. This could be attributed to a couple of reasons:
First would be the novelty factor. The couple would be trying to know each other and so it would take a considerable amount of time to learn about each other. The second would be society. since it is an arranged marriage, the parents would also try to see that a marriage would work properly.
Yes, there would be a lot of issues to resolve - trust being the main thing .. but once that is established, compassion, support and finally love for your partner would be installed. And that is all that matters. Relatives who act like pricks are really not welcome. Why bother about them? Relatives are meant to behave that way anyways!
2006-12-16 19:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by l_kur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been thru what you are talking now. I am also here in US for 4 yrs. Plz plz do not do this mistake. I am suffering with my husband. I was just like it u explained. I might ask for a divorce as well it so bad. I had a bf too, turned out to be a cheater. Life is not simple dear, touch wood, it has been good for u so far. Dont blindly marry someone. Its foolish and rubbish. Parents and family, they dont understand us. They belong to a different ear, We are falling into a different phase of changes. My suggestion is no matter how much time it takes, its worth waiting for the right person. Choose him of ur own not by parents. It could be dangerous. Arranged marriage is not not not good. I am an Indian. It is foolish.
2016-03-28 21:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! I guess its not arranged or love marriage. Its how you work on the relationship that matters to the success of marriage. Hasn't arranged marriage worked in conservative countries till date and not all of them are unhappy. I personally am quiet happy!
Even love marriages fall apart if not worked upon after all every body is at their best while dating. Real life begins after marriage...........you know issues of wet towel lying around and milk boiling over etc.
2006-12-19 18:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. i dont like arranged marriages as well. its not that i'm opposed to them if others want to do it, it's just that, when it comes to me and my life, i dont think il bother with an arranged marriage.
i know of couples who have had arranged marriages and they are happy. of course, the happiness part may be because of a lot of compromises and letting go of things and just accepting things that you know are bad but just cant do anything about. there is a lot of 'my karma' thoughts in an arranged marriages.
and i have seen many couples who fell in love and then got married but are not really as happy as you expect them to be, considering you assume that couples in a love marriage know each other, understand each other and stuff like that before they got married.
i'm just apprehensive about arranged marriages. these days, with quite a modern mindset, things in arranged marriages have changed. the time between engagement and marriage is longer, so that the bride and the groom have more time together to try and understand each other, get to be friends. i hope that solves the fear and apprehension in an arranged marriage.
a close friend of mine is about to get married and it is going to be an arranged marriage. i am extremely apprehensive and really really hope that he finds a good mate.
the worst part of an arranged marriage is that things are not in your hands, almost all the control is in the hands of fate, destiny and luck - and that is scary.
gosh, i have rambled on for long.
i wish you all the best, hope your destiny and luck and fate and karma gives you a good future.
2006-12-16 19:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by nymph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not involved in an arranged marriage but from what my friends told me, their parents had an arranged marriage and all of them were happy with the partners which their parents had chosen for them. the thing with arranged marriage is u don't know for sure whether it's going to work out or not but u have to work it out. it depends on the parties involved.
2006-12-16 19:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even people who court and choose their own mates often have no idea what they are getting into. Any marriage will be as good as the two people involved make it. If you treat your spouse with love and respect, you'll be doing all you can do to ensure the success and happiness of your marriage.
2006-12-16 19:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what u say is right then there shud be no break up of love marriages and marriages after long standing relationships. Marriage survives on understanding and adjustment.
2006-12-16 19:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yaar....as u said u r almost right. But every thing depends with the committment. The basic concept of the marriage should be understood before one gets married.
The nature of the person should get digested by each other. It all depends on love, understanding, forgiveness etc.,
it is way of life. many donot understand. its a practice to live with other person.
2006-12-16 19:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That not totally true, that men are please with arranged marriage.
I my self not happy with arranged marriage. I tell the truth when my family start to arrange it. I said boldly NO to the arrangement. .After a few struggling with the family. They finally respect my wish.
2006-12-16 18:58:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mat D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋