im not talking about the loss of a lover. the loss of ones children through divorce & non famly court system up held accsess / contact orders by there father, Iv taken him back 2 court over this but eventhough the court ruled in my favour he still didnt comply & set about poisening the kids against me succsesfully.
2006-12-16 18:42:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My mother was in your shoes and i was in the shoes your kids are in now. My mother let this situation destroy her over the years and that has runied any chance of a reltionshipas anadult. Let me back up..
My parents divorced when I was 4, eventually my father got custody of my brother and myself. We were not only poisened against our mother ( she is crazy, she doesn't want to see you , etc ) we were by and large ignored by our dad except for week ends. Every week end it was a different event, swimming, rollar skating, movies, the list ws endless and for 4 years we had a ball. Then it all stopped and dad said we had to learn to amuse ourselfs.
when I was 16 i ran away from home to find my mother. When I found her, I found out that the courts said she could see us between noon and 4 on saturdays and sundays... the times we were away unknowling. She moved 2 states away to start over as her pain at not being able to see us and having all gits and cards returned to great to bear. Yep, that was the same time all the activities for us stopped.
My mother never did get over the pain. BUT you can, you have the power , the right, and the responsiblity to make your decisions in the best intrests of your own life. DONOT let this poison you for one day your kids WILL seek you out!
when you do see the kids, never bad mouth thier dad, for they will believe themselves bad as well for afterall, they are not only a part of you they are a part of him. Save the bitchen If you need to vent to a diary or a letter you can burn. Focusing onthe wrongs that have been done wil only keep them alive and they will fester and ruin any chances you have at a happy life.
Take control of your life. If you need help, seek a theripst of get this book, I highly recommed it! Self-Talk by Dr. David Stoop
2006-12-16 19:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by flutteredonby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If im understanding your question right??? Please dont let this get to you, im 20 and my parents divorced when I was less than a year old, my parents hate each other. My dad took my mom to court many times over custody reasons and they always had the same problems. As a young male who has been through this, PLEASE talk to each other and work things out. I absolutely HATE the way my parents treat each other becasue they would refuse to have a civil conversation with each other. COMMUNICATION!!!!!! It works, after I turned 19 and moved to Cali from Minnesota to pusue my music career they realized they have more of a problem to worry about................ Their only son!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-17 02:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by Goes Without Saying 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i do beleive you can die from a broken heart. my boyfriends parents were together 68 years, he died of complications from a long term ilness, and she died 8 days later. it was kind of a bitter sweet moment. sad that they had both passed so close together, but sweet in the way she had found the person in her life that she couldn't live without.
2006-12-17 02:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One does not die from a broken heart but from the things it may cause like alcoholism suicide etc
2006-12-17 02:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't give up on your children. they're probably being told a lot of lies about you. and in time they will figure out that what their dad is saying about you isn't true. I would definately keep fighting to see my children and to get them back. you have to be strong for yourself and for your kids.
I will keep you in my prayers
2006-12-17 02:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if you get so depressed over this then yes! so dont fight back. show your kids your not what their father says you are. if you always look and act depressed then they will think hes right and hewill think hes won dont do that. just have fun and call when you can. i hope that helps!! good luck
2006-12-17 02:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by cali_girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure i fully understand your question. are you in fear that you (the mother) may lose custody of your children to their father?
2006-12-17 02:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by this is me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-17 03:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋