I'm getting married in a few weeks & wondering, why does everyone always have a problem with young people getting married? I understand that a lot of young married people get divorced, but so do older people. If people are in love and ready for it, shouldn't that be enough. I'm tired of getting critized for being young and wanting to start a family when i don't see anything wrong with it. I've done more that most people would do to make sure my relationship and family doesn't fail. My fiance and i are actively in church. I have finished high school and got a cosmetology degree. I have taken pre-marital counseling with the pastor of my church (which i go to every week). I talk to my fiance about everything, never lie,& am very open w/ him. I live in the city and am a very social person with many friends. So why do people feel like just because i am young it's wrong. Isn't love..love? i know it takes more that a love to make a marriage work, but don't i have the same chance as anyone?
2006-12-16 18:32:58 · 14 answers · asked by Andii 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not exactly sure why people criticize young marriages, but i too, got married at an early age. It once used to be if a female wasnt married by the age of 13 years old, she would be considered an old maid, and possibly face being a bachelorette for the rest of her life. Some people are worried about young marriages lasting, while some may become jealous remembering what young love was like, or wishing they had it...I take criticism with a grain of salt because what matters is your happiness, his happiness, lots of hard work and dedication. Please don't let those who pass judgement and criticism on your young marriage or you and your soon-to-be husband affect you at all, just forgive them and perhaps say a prayer because i will always strongly believe it is only GOD'S job to do the judging. Good Luck hun and lots of prayers for a strong marriage that will last an eternity!
2006-12-16 18:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by sherbear8521 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has to do with so many people knowing someone that has had a bad marriage. I am happy for you. But I will tell you also it is the single hardest thing you will ever do in your life. Two twain as one... that is hard. I deeply feel that being in church will help keep the bonds tight. You are around other people that are married and work hard to keep it together.
I wish the best for you. I have been married three years Dec 12th and it hasn't been nothing but one big fight. However I would change a thing that has happened to date. Divorce is so easy no days but when you believe what the Bible says about getting married and divorce then you know that you have to do everything to keep it together. I have thought about divorce a few times. However when i think of making my husband live in adultery if he ever remarries or visa a versa i have a hard time dealing with that. I won't tell you that my marriage is filled with romance and kisses but i love being married. I made that choice and I have to deal with it.
You will be just fine. Don't worry about what people say it is your choice. Before WWII nearly half of wives were in their teens alot of them made it.
2006-12-16 18:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Feather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget everybody else and be happy. People are jaded because their marriages didn't work out. Many people at 30 have the emotional maturity of a 20 year old and think other young people are just like them.
Good Luck
2006-12-16 18:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's odd the one's that critize have been married more than once. I married at 23, now 27, and had no problems. It's the confidence in your relationship that counts. Just wait until after your married, when everyone will then ask "when you gonna get pregnant"?
2006-12-16 18:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by rwhz199 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people have made bad choices or they feel they got married when they were too young. That was them, not you. Follow your heart. It will never lie to you.
2006-12-16 19:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATS!!!
And let "them" talk all they want. My family didn't support my marriage to my husband either. BUT it is OUR choice. LOVE CONQUERS ALL.
Granted the divorce rate is high but so is the marriage rate and ALOT of those are second marriages. I hope it all works out for you. Just keep God at the center of it and never go to bed angry.
GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS YOU BOTH
2006-12-16 18:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs Lizzard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not a problem. Taking on the responsibility is a problem, if you and/or your husband-to-be are not capable enough to undertake it. At the end of it all, it is you and your husband-to-be to decide and face the consequences, both good and bad, of your actions. May God bless you and your husband-to-be.
2006-12-16 18:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds OK to me. Just be SURE that you're marrying the right man, because children make a woman much less dateable. Good luck!
2006-12-16 18:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remenber that the problem is THEIR problem, not yours. If you're both wholeheartedly commited to sticking together there is nothing on the face of this earth that can stop you.
2006-12-16 18:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by AngryAmerican82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those people r just scared for u dont worry if u love him than u should let nothing bother u
2006-12-16 18:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋