2006-12-16 18:30:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get on the drunk bus then the bang bus.
2006-12-16 18:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by jay s 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You will,it just takes time! I know that is the last thing you want to hear,but it really is the truth.I was in your shoes about 1 year ago,so i can sympathize with you.I do know how hard it is and how much pain you feel.First,you need to find things different in your life to distract yourself.Get out with friends,make new friends if you need to,get a second job(part time),start playing sports,join a gym,...do 1 thing that is different!You have to be willing to focus on something new in your life and let go of that old thing...it is gone now.Trust me,the tears will go and you will be FINE!!!!!!!! It may take 1 year,but you will heal! Good Luck!!!
2006-12-16 18:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by spicy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving on involves a healing process. Before you move on you will have to first take a glance of at your past. Look back into the relationship as if you're about to say good bye to it.
Picture yourself living in a house for three years. Think about how much you enjoyed this house. Think about all the fun times you had. Look at the yard. See the grass you made green when it used to be brown when you first moved in? Look at the nice paint job you did in the kitchen and bathroom. Look at the new carpet you had installed in the living room.
Now that you're about to move out of state on onto a new place. Turn around and look at the house that you fell in love with and capture those fond memories. Now get in your car and drive off to the new state that you're moving to.
Now picture this house being the relationship you had for three years. It has finally come to an end. There were good and bad times. But now that the time has come for you to move on, take the good memories with you, and dust off your feet and start your life.
The point here, you can move forward, you will have to be ready to do so. One step at a time. But you also will have to want to move on. That's very important. If you choose to stay in the past you're going to get stuck. But moving on is what sets you free from the hurt you are now going through.
Don't deny your love for the man of three years, but come to accept that the two of you have come to an end. The more you keep wishing for the past the more its going to hurt.
With time it will get easier. With time!
2006-12-16 21:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply can't have been with someone for 3 years, and then the next day sever yourself entire from him. From experience, the time it took me to fall in love with someone, has always been the length of time it took for me to get over someone. There is no absolute positive way to get over someone right away. It takes time, and the length of time depends on the person. Whether you like it or not, you just have to wait it out.
In the meantime, don't stay home and just drown in your own tears. Go out with friends, family, or even yourself. Time alone always worked out for me. It gave me to space to think the whole ordeal over and see all the imperfect aspects of it. Sometimes thinking of the reason why it didnt't work helps out too.
While you're going out and about doing your own thing, who knows, you may meet your next boyfriend.
Everyone cries over a break up. It's good to let your emotions run it's course. You can't force yourself to stop crying, it's just impossible. Just look ahead to meeting new people, and my advice to everyone who is in this situation is: "why be sad and cry over just ONE person?" Keeping your feelings bottled up will only make matters worst.
2006-12-16 18:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time Chriztina, only time. It's like any grieving process; you'll go through about the same kind of stages. Just remember to look in the mirror from time to time and remind yourself what a fantastic woman you really are and that you have a bright future ahead of you... really, it may not feel like it, but you do. (You've learned something and grown from it. All problems have their gifts.)
You will find love again, but you dont need anyone else to love you to be whole.
2006-12-16 18:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by Clear thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on think and do stuff to keep ur mind off the person i have been like this and time healed me for the most part
2006-12-16 18:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by glock310 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ei, weve been thru the same situation.. in the sence that ive been with my ex boyfriend too for almost 3 yrs........... at the start,life seems to be still miserable for you........ but eventually,youll move on.. and that would be easy for you if youll try to love again......... and believe me,as long as youll have your new love.. youll be ok again and happy again..
2006-12-16 18:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no idea but if u find out can ya let me know! apparently time heals everything but that feels like a load of **** right now
2006-12-16 18:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feels like i want to cry with you..dont be sad..move on i know its not easy but you have to face the reality...me,i have to let him go and say gudbye with my exhusband..his too much and my problems are more sad than yours i guess..ill share you with my story..my husband and i are childhood sweetherat,he left me when i was pregnant and live in states..no support financially at all..after 6yrs we saw each other agin and got married..he promised me to fix our papers we have two kids..but i was mistake..he cheat on me and have a lot of girls and babies and i just knew it recently and recently also were separated but not legally because his in states and me and kids in other country...i have to let him go even its really painful.i still love him but i cant accep him for all the pain..he wants to comeback but i said its over..no child support giving for my kids and its added pain..i can say im not a strong person,im crying baby they say...but i have to move on even its not easy and its just a snap that i dont have my husband and left us just like that...but i keep moving on i know its hard but still im fighting for my life and my kids..i dont depend with him anymore and i promise to myself i will stand for my kids as a father and a mother..prayers is most powerful bilieve me.just hold on and have a lot more faith to jesus christ..your not alone,and you can count on me..you can email me if you want..ellariamagana@yahoo.com
2006-12-16 22:49:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-16 19:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋