I told my best friend that I was bi a couple of months ago. She was worried and ok with it (at the same time) (she said she was behind me 100%). I promised that I wouldn't hit on her and that nothing would change. Well a couple of months go by, and I’m falling in love with her and I have no idea what to do. I know that she is straight but she is soooooo sweet and beautiful. And it sucks because when she hugs me i don't want to let go. She is the only person I can see my self with right now. I also can’t stop thinking about her. WHAT DO I DO? Help
2006-12-16 18:10:40 · 7 answers · asked by jcpreston08 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The first person i got a crush on was my best friend. U do eventually get over it AND still keep the friendship intact. Just a few notes:
DO NOT TELL HER!!
Try not make it obvious
Have fun as u would before (best buddies tend to pick up if somethings different)
Wish u all my luck :)
2006-12-16 18:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, friendships are based on some level of attraction. If she is your best friend then you need to be able to communicate with each other. So, do so. Now if you feel that your feelings for your friend are going to end up causing a problem then get some distance between you and your friend, until you are in a place in your life where you have moved on. It may seem painful, but trust me your friend will understand and it will help with your own peace of mind.
2006-12-17 02:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, i fell very deeply in love with a friend of mine. First i developed a crush on her then i fell head over heels in love with her. She knew this and at first she told me she was bi and she wanted to have a relationship with me, then when i got serious with her she changed her mind and told me she didn't like females like that. I had to walk away from the friendship a couple of months ago and it hurt like hell to do it. I kept telling her i couldn't be friends with someone i was in love with, but i tried to give her the friendship that she wanted. Needless to say in the end i was the one who got hurt while she moved on with her life. I'm still healing from a broken heart that she caused for not being real with me in the beginning. Don't mess up your friendship with your best friend, it's not worth all the pain it'll cause both of you. Straight women do nothing but play games with you because they like the attention you give them, go find a woman who's Bi or a Lesbian and save yourself the heartache that comes with loving a straight women.
2006-12-17 04:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep this to yourself and don't let her know especially if she isn't attracted to women.speaking from experience it will freak her out , and it will take a long time to make things right again w/ her. Best friends are such a great gift to have in this life - don't taint your relationship - losing her all together will hurt worse than keeping your emotions hidden from her for right now.It sucks but in the end it's worth it!!
2006-12-17 02:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I feel your pain but you can't think of her like that anymore. My best friend is gay & I started falling for him, maybe because I knew it was safe but I also knew that I could lose the best friend I ever had so although I still love him, it's in a brotherly way
2006-12-17 02:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's most likely because you're constantly with her. Try going out without her for a while... meet other people. Maybe you'll develop an attraction for someone else, and this one will lessen because if she is straight, then... sorry, you're out of luck.
2006-12-17 02:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on.
2006-12-17 02:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋