I fell in love with a co-worker and was told to stay "the hell away" later. Am very depressed and was suicidal. I'm on anti-depressants but I still get depressed thinking about it all. Please help!
2006-12-16 18:07:48 · 14 answers · asked by mbprrt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GET ANOTHER JOB!!! Honestly, that's the only thing you can do. Time can't do its work if you're constantly reminded of the thing that caused you pain.
2006-12-16 18:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say an affair - was he married?
Non the less, dating at work is always a risky business. Once it's over, you still have to see this person even when you don't want to.
I have dated several ladies in my workplace and I am still friends with them all. But I can't help but wonder if they know about each other and talk about me. I have broken up with all of them myself.
And I even feel awkward at times. One speaks still with a smile but doesn't show any interest like before. Another one barley speaks in person, but emails me daily, the most recent one works directly with me, and she's playing too many games.
Now back to you.... If you're not willing to change your job, you're going to have to embrace the fact that the two of you are no longer a couple. You can choose to hook up with someone else to take your mind off of him or you can choose to allow yourself be tortue daily. But you do have to leave him alone before he have you in the HR office.
2006-12-17 02:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to you, I have no real friends and over loaded myself with honors classes. 24 stressed out , getting Ds and Cs but still trying real hard. I have never had a boyfriend and am in the high school. Just be optimistic, think about the future. You'll get though it, although you feel like your life belongs to this man, there are many other men. And you have a great future ahead of you. Don't take your life beause of ONE man who you can't have! Stick with it, there has to be a better man out there who cares just as much about you. It WILL get better, you will see. Life is like an ocean. There are good times and bad times, tough times and easy times. You just have to surf and swim the changing waves. Whatever you do, keep going. You have a promising life ahead of you.
2006-12-17 02:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tend to disagree with the last response of finding a new job. My suggestion, do what other people have done, focus on yourself! Relieve any stress or depression through physical activities ( walking, weights, swimming, etc. ) When your feeling and looking fit, you just have a different attitude and way of looking at the world. Besides, you may find a cute Guy at the gym, or walking, or swimming etc...
Best wishes! Happy holidays!
2006-12-17 02:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by k.c. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Told to "stay the hell away???" Were you stalking him or something????
Sounds like you may need therapy because this sounds really unhealthy. You are suicidal because of what?
Look, I don't know your specifics. But, if I approach someone and they say "not interested" or show they aren't interested, I move on and don't look back.
If you need to share your situation, you can IM me broadbent_law on Yahoo. I will be glad to give you input.
It may help to change jobs like other people say too.
2006-12-17 02:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm well first of all hes not worth killing yourself for.. lets think about that, u know hes not the only guy out there. what if i told you that there's someone out there better then him, one that will love you just as much as you love him and you would never have to let him go.. sure its easy for me to say theses things but u know what? if u kill yourself u will never know. forget this guy. i know it hurts but it will stop in due time and not by being suicidal.. get involved with ur friends meet someone else maybe u can transfer out of his department. ur life is importain... hell i don't even know you, but I'm trying to help..cowgirl up!! smile!! and be the girl that you were before you met this guy,, i do know that God has someone for all of us, just keep Ur faith , and be patient and he will come to you.. maybe u might see him at the mall the store, traffic light, who knows, but im sure he would rather see a beautiful smile then a girl that looks like she got thrown from her horse. Everything will be ok.. and when it is. think back about the people, like me that don't know you. but still care.. God bless you and keep you safe.
2006-12-17 02:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by boots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to stay away from him because of work,then quit your job.If it is because he doesn't want to,than not much you can do.Get over it.It wasn't meant to be.Don't kill yourself for a man.Just love yourself and have respect for your body.Be patient and optimist.A good man will come along soon.Until then try your best to be a descent woman.
2006-12-17 02:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry. There is nothing we can do, you have to get through it, you probably knew better before you got into this relationship but, now you just have to live with it and, be stronger than ever or find a better work place.
2006-12-17 02:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by lbflow562 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well look at it this way...other than one of you switching jobs, you have no choice, but see him everyday at work in order to continue to support yourself. So with that in mind, you will go to work everyday. It won't be easy, but just keep things casual. It doesn't sound like he will be speaking to you much so if you have to, try to avoid him. If you can, ask to be transferred.
2006-12-17 02:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably need to take more of those happy pills. lol. just kidding. forget him if he talks to you like that you need to go and find someone thats right for you. And suicide is stupid, dont do something like that b/c your doing it for other people if you think about it and you need to send some you time and fix yourself before you try and fix a relationship
2006-12-17 02:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋