ok im into this girl....A LOT.... we've been best friends for about 3 years now...i started liking her about 2-3 months ago and told her about a month ago...im trying to win her over....saying th sweetest things i can think of...trying to make her like me....she says she wants a nice guy who likes her for what she is on the inside....and i do i just dont know if she sees it...what should i do
p.s. i dont want this to totaly screw up our friendship...thats most important
2006-12-16 17:53:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she said that shes been thinking about what it would be like if she went out with me and concitering it... is that just being nice or foreal you think?
2006-12-16 17:59:43 · update #1
ok your question is a lot like me and my boyfriend, except the other way i around, i REALLY liked him and he was one of my closest friends and it was a risk going into a relatinship with him because your thinking what if we break up, theni lose one of my best friends. Just talk to her, be yourself dont try to win her over. sometimes the stupid things you do that she sees and you dont think she does, is the ones that make her fall in love with you.
2006-12-17 10:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like her, tell her. Really, the worse thing that could possibly happen is that she would say no. You don't want to go through life pretending that you are just "friends" when in reality you would like to be more. You also have to think of it this way: 10 years from now.. looking back to today.. it won't seem like a big deal at all to tell this girl that you like her. The nervous feelings, the knot in your throat that you feel.... will seem vague. 10 years from now you'll think, "why was that so hard to do?" And besides, if you never tell her that you have feelings for her, 10 years from now you will wonder what life would have been like and how different you life might have been if you would have just done that one thing differently.... told your best friend that you loved her.
Honestly, I would go for it. You are probably the one person that knows her the best. When you are with someone, I'd like to think that you are with your best friend. And there you go.. you already have that covered. You are best friends.
I Wish you all of the best and I hope she feels the same as you do. Happy holidays also....
PS: Maybe you should tell her that you like her through your Christmas Present to her... You may just sweep her off her feet.
2006-12-16 18:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jeni W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you've already started putting a small crack in the friendship by really trying to get her to like you. I'm guessing you haven't gotten much of a response from her over this past month if you are still fretting. My best friend never has outright said that he likes me but he is always telling me how pretty I am, how lucky he is that we are best friends, he is always there for me, he is very casual still, and he's not trying to gain my affection. But by being himself and by dropping small hints about how much he cares about me I am really falling for him. Maybe that's what you should do with your friend. There is no need to try to "win her over". When she sees how spectacular you are (and you seem to be) and since she already knows you like her, that's all you need. You've done your part, don't push your part further, it's time for her to do hers if she likes you back. If she doesn't right now, don't keep lobying, just make sure that she knows you'll always be there for her and maybe one day she'll realize that she likes you back.
Best of luck! And I hope the perspective from the otherside of your situation has helped!
2006-12-16 18:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tweety bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, Don't try to win her over be yourself thats what will win her over
Second, Same advice if she goes out with be yourself because thats the guy she went out with
Threed. If she says she's thinking about going out with you then she is thinking about going out with you
2006-12-17 00:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be your self and talk to her about it the most important thing in a relationship is honesty
2006-12-17 01:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself! If you try to be different, it will show through like a cat hiding behind a window.
2006-12-16 17:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have a quality she likes or she wouldn't be your BFF. However, she most likely is not attracted to you, or she would jump at the chance to date you. Sorry to be so blunt.
2006-12-16 23:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm... have you ever seen the movie "just friends", this could easily be your situation. i would say to just be there for her help her through her problems, but dont pressure her too much. if you do these things then she should see that you like her for herself. good luck!
2006-12-16 17:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by JoHanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow guess wat the guy in in a relantionship with we were close friends for 6 and half years and we always liked each other but we didnt say nothing we only mess around even when we had boy friend and girl friend and then finally oneday he was the won that asked me out but atleast show her give her clues thats wat i did but most important tell her.
2006-12-16 18:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by diana v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really wanted you, yall would be dating by now. She's just being nice and she's not into you.
2006-12-16 18:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋