Her parents have been constantly emotionally and verbally abusing her, especcially lately. Once her dad gets angry about anything, he loses control and starts slamming doors, calling her names, and threatning to kick her out of the house, ect.
For example, today her dad approached her told her that she is like a stranger in their own home, he began yelling at her, she replied "Leave me alone".
Just that triggered him to call her a b*tch a piece of sh** and so on.
She's 16, she ususally stays at my house for a couple of days and then goes back. But this is too much, not a norming living envornment.
2006-12-16 17:45:13 · 8 answers · asked by atp09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What can I do, or rather what should she do?
2006-12-16 17:46:00 · update #1
*not a normal living enviornment
2006-12-16 17:46:45 · update #2
I would like to advise you to help your friend get an objective opinion and try to find out if and how much she is to blame herself for this situation. The fact that she keeps on going back may be an indication that she knows she also responsible for this. It often happens that parents take a wrong approach in trying to get their kids to do the right things in life. This can be an indication of parents that do love their kids very much getting to be desperate. I think your friend will regret very much if it so happens that she gets to be separated from parents that love her just because of some misunderstanding. I've had the joy of helping two friends of my daughter who was convinced that her friends were being abused. Both the kids and their parents where very happy that I was able to help. Their parents where just getting more and more desperate with fear of "losing" their kids to a "bad" future. These kids where on their own request both temporarily placed with us by legal authorities and are now happily back home with their parents. In all honesty, a parent saying a kid is like a stranger in their own home doesn't seem to be parent that doesn't want that kid around but rather a parent feeling a young kid is away to much!
2006-12-16 21:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by candy_john43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I agree with your other advisors, there are plenty of help agencies out there, look online, then get her to ring them and have a chat about the living arrangements. You dont say whether her father is a 'drinker' or why you think he behaves like this, maybe his own life is in disaray, like his marriage, or his work, etc, this would shed some light on the picture, although there is no excuse for his behaviour he is the parent and should behave like one. Is she the only child, does he treat the others the same as this? What action does her mother take when he is behaving like this ? Anyway, you must be strong, she will need you, it is good that your parents have allowed her to stay at your place, but you must try to get her to get in touch with the authorities and get some councilling for herself. She is very lucky to have you. Good Luck
2006-12-16 17:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I work for a Domestic Violence safe center. And I would advise you to have your friend contact a local DV group. ( don't know WHERE you are located or i would check my resources and give you an exact location or Ph# to call) most of them will offer free and confidential counseling. Also encourage her to speak w/ her guidance counselor or school psychiatrist.
You mentioned her Dad but what about her Mom? Is she approachable? Would she be willing to help her daughter get the help she needs?
Please free to email me if you want the location or ph #
God Bless you both and GOOD LUCK
2006-12-16 17:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs Lizzard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your friend contact child protective services. They can hook her up with resources to help like counseling, and intervention if the abuse becomes physical.
You are a good friend to look out for her. Keep being there for her, she really needs your support.
2006-12-16 17:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of great adivse- that should help and maybe court ordered counseling would be inline- that should help- where is mom when this is going on?? there is more going on that you don't see or comprehend- get the help that is available-even the counselor at school may be able to help-D
2006-12-16 18:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if your friend actually wanted help she would probably not go back home, or prefeably contact child services and if things get worse to where she is thinking that she dosent need her parents try taking her to a family member that will take her in or also ask her to think about getting emancipated.
2006-12-16 17:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by amasia s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact social services or get hold of zenith 1234 (just ask the operator for that she'll patch you throu, it's a kids help line)
2006-12-16 17:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SINCE SHE DOES STAY AT YOUR HOUSE, TALK TO YOUR
PARENTS AND LET THEM KNOW WHAT GOING ON, SHE
NEED TO BE OUT OF THAT HOME IT NOT GOOD FOR HER
TALK TO SOMEONE SO THAT SHE CAN GET SOME HELP.
THE MORE PEOPLE KNOW THEN MAYBE SHE CAN GET
THE HELP AND SUPPORT THAT SHE NEED. AS FOR YOU
GOD BLESS YOU FOR BEING A FRIEND TO HER.
2006-12-16 17:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋