thinking of getting a divorce.should i?????

Question

been 2gether 16 years. isn't that long enough?

Answer 1

Life is to short to be unhappy, do what you feel will make you happy. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks...remember to do what will make you happy not everyone else.

Answer 2

yes u have been 2gether for 16 years and yes it is quite a long while but if u really loved him u wouldnt even think about divorce. if u have children together tht would be a problem too and it will affect their lives. you have to think about the children before u. if u dont have any children and u want the divorce because ur simply "bored" form the relationship then talk about it to him and maybe u should work out something like going on a vacation or even think about spending some time alone without each other and if u dont even miss each other after tht while then get the divorce if u feel it is necessary. but after all its ur choice and not the amount of time u've been with each other becasue the amount of years u've been with each other shouldnt really matter if u love each other.

Answer 3

Well gee, how long did you commit to lasting in this marriage, when you took your vows? Did you at anytime say anything about 16 years or was it more like a lifetime? What is it with women?

Let me give you and some others on here a clue. If you ever wonder why so many men look at women the way they do anymore, it is because of questions just like this. We are finding that you women never have been and probably wont be any better or more trustworthy, honest, reliable then men have been said to be. When you get to 50 years, then tell us how it has been a long time.

Answer 4

Well, "long enough" started out as "for better or worse" and "till death do us part"...right? The answer to your questions would be found in your reasons for wanting a divorce. If you are in any danger in the relationship, being abused either physically or emotionally, GET OUT and then find an agency to help you...and they WILL help you. If there is infidelity, that is serious, but not impossible to overcome...it just takes a recommitment, time, THERAPY and a rebuilding of trust...hard work, but if the result is a stronger and more committed marriage for the next 16+ years, it's worth it. If you're just "tired" of each other, then both of you need to work on finding ways to regain what you've misplaced...that being the reasons you fell in love in the first place. And finally, find a church to attend together...you start seeing God's plan in your marriage and find the good things in your partner.

But most importantly, if there are kids in the marriage, DON'T do that to them. Unless there is abuse in the marriage, the best thing you can give your kids is an example of honoring an commitment and doing all you can to make your marriage not only work, but be a positive force in your lives and theirs. Too many adults today are getting divorced because no one demonstrated a healthy committed marriage in their lives. Break the cycle, don't continute it.

Answer 5

What happened to commitment to one another. WHy do you possibly think the grass is greener on the other side? It isnt. Stay with the man. Work at trying to bring life back into your marriage.

I think a lot of the time we get caught up so much with our family lives that we lose sight of who we are. As women our lives revolve around the children and school activities or we have to work to keep our standards higher, then we have to pander to our men as well and by the time we have seen to everyone else there is little or no time left for us. We lose our identities. What you need to do is find out who you are again and where your talents lie and then to see how you can apply them best to your life and find your purpose. Things work better if you have God in your life, because He is incredible at helping you find your way again and when you realize who you are in Him and who He is in you, things seem so different and good. You only have to give up things like envy, jealousy anger and pride etc. to walk his road and thats not so hard to do.

You get your breath back again when the chicks fly away and leave home when they are ready and thats when you will find more time for your own desires and you even find your best friend (your hubby) and you get even closer than before! Dont become selfish and think of your own needs. He too has given you 16 years of his life. Now make the rest of your years together the best they could ever have been and be creative!

Good luck and I wish you well!

Answer 6

my parents have been married for 30 years, grandparents for over 50. You see, this is what marriage is meant to be, together FOREVER. People these days don't take the vows they made seriously. If your reason for wanting a divorce is just because you feel like you've been together "long enough" then that is a terrible reason to get divorced. If he is abusing you, or if you are constantly fighting and have tried marriage counseling and every way possible to fix things perhaps divorce is a reasonable option. Dr Phil once said you know that you are ready for divorce if BOTH of you can walk away without feeling anger or resentment, or feeling like things were unfinished. Something like that anyways.

Answer 7

Since you really did not say too much other than
been with him for 16yrs, as for if its long enough
you will have to answer that, when I read this
it makes me think that every 16 yrs a person
should divorce, and that's why marriage is not
taken seriously if that was the case.

Answer 8

You have been married for 16 years and you need a divorce?

First of all, you are not giving us any reason why you want to divorce apart from the reason that you have been with this person for 16 years.

Come on, don't you think your partner deserves something better that this???

Give a proper reason then please submit the question again.

Honestly no one can give you an answer unless you give a reason why you want to divorce the person.

Hope this helps you out!!!!

Answer 9

16 years is too long-

It's way to long to be holding your breathe under the water but never too long to be loving someone. Do you feel like you need to call quits because you did your part already? How long have you been waiting to get it.

Your question sounds like you're tired, but what are you tired of?
How long were you expecting to give it? 1 year, 5 years, 10 years? But didn't you sign the life long contract?

So what is LONG ENOUGH?

Answer 10

Got kids? No - then do as you want.
Although I should hope you've got more against your relationship than just the length of time. I've been married for 17 years and I intend to stay that way until I die.
If you've got kids, go for counselling. Being a single parent is hard work.

Answer 11

Been married the same length of time and is separated, me myself, I feel that if there isn't anything left and you have tried and been separated for a while then go for it, because if it is meant for you to get back together you will and if you are not happy why hold on to someone just because you have been with them for a long time.