Why do women have to ask if they are justified to leave their husbands?

Question

I thought it was quite clear. If there is infidelity you leave. If there is not, you stay and work thru them.

The reasons to leave- Cheating
The non-reasons to leave- physical abuse, addiction, working out-of-state, he doesn't know how to handle a situation, he doesn't know how to please me, my parents don't like him.

Look *****. When and if he cheats LEAVE. When and if he doesn't, GET HELP.

Is that clear enuff yet?

I prolly should clarify. Physical abuse is indeed reason to leave the house, however it is not reason to leave the marriage. Safety is important, but you leave and get help. You don't leave and adulterate. There is a big difference.

Answer 1

Reasons to leave:

1. Cheating
2. Physical Abuse
3. Addiction
4. Working out of state
5. He doesn't know how to handle a situation

Non-Reasons to leave:
6. He doesn't know how to please me - "tell him how"

Answer 2

Did "physical abuse" mistakenly get into your 'non-reasons' category or were you being serious? Not sure what provoked this black and white theory of yours, but despite the annoyance of people looking for validation in their actions, being it leaving their spouse or wearing a shirt, I think you're being too harsh. Not just in the way it's written, but in the sense that you think that cheating, and perhaps physical abuse?, are the only reasons to separate. I do agree that people give up way too easy, but there plenty of other perfectly other good reasons to leave outside of my informal list I've made. For instance; child abuse (in any way shape or form), verbal abuse (assuming it's verbal abuse and not just the typical heated argument/disagreement that people tend to blow way out of proportion), crime in general (varies), and plenty more really.

Update: I can't disagree enough with you there. I think it's a mistake when women stick around because of how sweet and soft his voice is when he says it will never happen again over and over and over. Physical abuse is a reason to leave the house and a perfectly valid reason for ending the marriage as well. 'If' the abused spouse makes the mistake (mistake in my opinion) of wanting to work things out, I'd wish said victim the best, but I wouldn't have high hopes. You think a ring obligates a woman to come back to an unhealthy marriage? Whether he agree to 'get help and work things out' or not, it's likely that it'll happen again. Maybe it'll be even worse the second time around? Maybe so bad that it's not possible for there to be a third time? People are WAY to eager to throw in the towel. I agree that there should be good concrete reasons to finally end it and not just a collection of small details, but physical abuse is definitely on the 'concrete reason' list. By how bold your post was I doubt I can change your mind or anything, but I wish I could because I think violence is such $hit and to do it to your spouse? That's awful. Just as thinking the spouse 'should' re-enter the marriage after abuse is awful.

Answer 3

You don't think physical abuse is a reason to leave? Is that a joke or what?

Answer 4

i hope i misinderstood you did you say physical abuse is NOT a reason to leave? it is. cheating is too but sometimes its easier said than done.

Answer 5

I'm guessing you're one of those physical abusers and your wife just left you, hence the "B" word. I'd a left you too!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

You are clearly someone who should be left, no matter what the reason. Why don't you take your own advice & GET HELP. You obviously need it.

Answer 7

Sounds to me as though you're quite confused.
Anything less than happiness shouldn't be
tolerated.

Answer 8

f*** youuuu