Linda is my husband's sister's best friend, who grew up with the family. She's always been around, and he's even travelled across the USA with her. There was a friendship prior to our relationship. Well, when we first started dating, we met her one day at a monster truck rally, and she edged her way between us and got mad he didn't sit down next to her. She put her arm in his. I immediately got shoved aside, but he got up and sat next to me and kissed me. She made me uncomfortable in that instance and ever since, I've been uncomfortable with them doing stuff together. He used to go to movies with her and take her to dinner. He doesn't now. Now that we got married last May, she hasn't been in touch at all, but the other day, she began writing him again. Should I worry? Should I give him an ultimatum? She has been a friend some 30 years or more. I do feel threatened by her...but I know he isnt' interested in her the way she is with him. She has never been married...
2006-12-16 17:11:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Linda had a pact with my husband...before we got married. If they reached 50 and had not married, then they'd marry each other. Supposedly, this was just a joke. I don't like her. Something inside me does not trust her and I don't like them emailing each other either.
2006-12-16 17:13:51 · update #1
Make sure to communicate your feelings to your husband about it. Understand if he gets defensive and stay calm about it. The best way to get past this is to keep the communcation lines open so that IF, not when but IF she ever tries anything with him he will remember your concerns and most likely cut contact with her. It's also a possibility that she has gotten over her feelings for him and just wants to be his friend again. You could also take the option of talking with her about your feelings. As long as you're calm about it and you don't get defensive, she'll probably let you know her intentions. Remember YOU are his wife, YOU are the one whom he promised to share his life with.
2006-12-16 17:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants your husband. She probably thought he'd always be there for her then he met you. That's not your problem. She's got issues and she doesn't need to mess up your relationship because she wants to be with someone she can't have. Personally, I'd tell him that you're not comfortable with them being friends anymore. She went out of her way to make you uncomfortable and I'm guessing you two were never friends. I wouldn't give him an ultimatum because those usually backfire. Just explain your feelings honestly and ask him to think about it. Women like Linda need to stop with games and interfering in people's relationships. We've all encountered these types of women and 9 time out of 10, if you confront them, they will back down and go bye bye.
2006-12-17 01:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know
when I told my wife my feelings for my anti wife, she said she was gonna get a gun and shoot her, if she bought one, I would have warned her.
I hugged some people tonight and did some talking too, maybe I'll get shot for it.
2006-12-17 01:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD NOT WORRY SO MUCH ABOUT THIS, HE MARRY
YOU AND YOU KNOW THAT THERE IS NOTHING GOING WITH
THEM. IT ABOUT TRUST YOU HAVE OR YOU DONT. IT JUST
THAT SIMPLE.
2006-12-17 01:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋