i want my friend to be happy and shes not telling me much on her new relationship other than broad details, what do i do if i went more specific details, how do i ask her? shes just coming home from her sophomore year in college, and ive known her from since my freshman year. its been like 4 years since ive known her
2006-12-16 16:53:46 · 11 answers · asked by Mikey P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't worry about it. If she is at least your friend that is fine.
2006-12-16 16:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by Lance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that one of the best ways that brings about more detailed information from a friend who is holding things back, is when I listen, occasionally getting validation that I have understood something significant. This shows that you're listening and are interested but aren't going into any territory that they aren't bringing you into. The better you are at listening and not making it about you and your need to hear the details, the more likely they'll share more with you. If you do well with being trusted a little, then they might feel safer to trust you even more. You have to prove yourself first though. Often times when someone wants to know details, they might not get the good stuff, if they don't just let it happen in the other person's rhythm.
Good luck!
2006-12-17 00:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by mamaloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i'm afraid you are being too pushy. It's really none of your business unless she makes it your business. The reason she hasn't told you is because she's obviously not ready to open up to you about that area of her life. Just give her some time and space, and if she values your input and friendship, she'll decide if and when to open up to you and talk to you about this. Until then, don't bug her about it or you'll just alienate her further. Good luck, love!
2006-12-17 00:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
College is different than HS, where we all tell our deepest feelings to our close friends. she's experiencing a different world now. If she wants to tell you, she will. If not, respect the boundaries. Time changes and so do people.
2006-12-17 00:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Push
The harder you push the more she'll resist.
You will have to let her come to you
If being pushy is what you insist
Her mouth will remain sealed with glue
2006-12-17 01:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business and if you want to stay friends stay out of the love life,be a listener only
2006-12-17 00:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jesus Freak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start with the easiest conversation. work your way up to that point you want to get to. if you never do, keep say just random conversations. that might remind her of something that she wants to tell someone. then she sees you, and thinks, "why not just tell ya, would hurt..."
2006-12-17 00:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by tarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can try staying out of it, its her relationship, not yours, if she needs your help with any relationship stuff im sure she'll go to you, and if you truely are her friend, then you will give her, her privacy!!
2006-12-17 00:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk about something smear to that the ask her what would do?
2006-12-17 00:57:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till she's ready if ur a true friend u will wait!!!
2006-12-17 01:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by ghetto fabolous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋