I am a really caring guy and there is this girl I like, We are both sophmores and have known each other a long time and we both know we like each other. She is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug, and I respect her so I don't. even though I am a more touchy kind of guy. and I mean with everybody I always love hugs any time from most anyone.SO WHAT SHOULD i DO TO GROW CLOSTER IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saving that for marraige.
2006-12-16 16:48:09 · 4 answers · asked by 1-4-all 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she is somewhat aversive to touch, and you genuinely respect her (both of which sound true from your description), you'll have to wait for her to let you get closer. That doesn't mean you can't talk about it though. She might have some really good reasons why she is afraid to get too close to people, and you might very well be the person that lets her release herself from her own bondage. Thats probably not going to happen overnight, though. You'll have to give it time and probably lots of conversation. If she isn't willing or able to talk about it though, I'd stick with either giving up or waiting on it until she is ready, because if she isn't ready, she won't probably think well of any advances, even friendly social ones, you might make. I definitely hope it works out for you, though.
2006-12-16 18:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say if you really like her than go slow, be patient and she will come around. Maybe if you two talked about it, you could mention the fact that you're waiting to be married before you have sex, maybe that will calm her nerves a little. She's probably just nervous, give it time and don't push too hard. Good luck!
2006-12-17 00:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww you sound like a guy every girl should have...jus keep doin what your doin and time will tell. good luck!
2006-12-17 01:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by brighteyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm... Well, ask her if she likes you! If not, just say ok and get on with your life! If yes, well, I imagine you can take it from there!!!
2006-12-17 00:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by §~You can't judge me!~§ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋